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    Default would you prefer your child obey you, or make their own choice?

    If your child disobeyed you, based on their own judgement, would you punish them? Would you prefer they obeyed you, as their parent?

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    I do not think that you can give one answer to this question, it would depend on the child's age, their maturity,what they disobeyed, their reasons for disobeying me and what happened as a result of disobeying me.

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    It would depend on the situation. If I was telling my 3 year old to get down off the lounge you could hurt yourself jumping like that, and she didn't and continued then I'd interveen, however if I asked her to eat her dinner and she said no because she's full, fair enough.

    I don't see myself as raising children to obey blinding but to make informed choices.

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    Hmm it really depends. I have never raised my kids to jump when I say jump. But I guess it would depend on the age and what it was....

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    Quote Originally Posted by elleandsam View Post
    It would depend on the situation. If I was telling my 3 year old to get down off the lounge you could hurt yourself jumping like that, and she didn't and continued then I'd interveen, however if I asked her to eat her dinner and she said no because she's full, fair enough.

    I don't see myself as raising children to obey blinding but to make informed choices.
    This. I always expect her to "obey" me when she is doing something dangerous, that's the only time I ever get upset/cross with her. Other then that I let her be herself, she's got spunk..maybe too much

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    I think I'll follow my mum's lead, and teach that it's important to question authority, but also important to pick your battles. Part of living in a society is learning to live by the rules, even if you don't agree with them- there are ways to have your voice heard that don't always mean disobedience. So i would prefer my children obeyed me, but if they feel I'm being unfair to come and discuss it civilly, not just disobey.

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    would depend on what the action is. i would love for my children to make their own choices, but then again i dont want those choices to be wrong and people could get hurt or ruined financially. atm with the age my 2 are ild like them to listen to me (obey sounds horrible) but they dont because they are toddlers lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by waterlily View Post
    This. I always expect her to "obey" me when she is doing something dangerous, that's the only time I ever get upset/cross with her. Other then that I let her be herself, she's got spunk..maybe too much
    Oh so does mine, she's a little firecracker

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    I think I'm a pretty fair and easy going parent, so when I ask DS to do something or if I'm disciplining him, frankly I expect him to obey me.

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    For those who say 'only for safety' what about things like- screaming in a cafe, pulling things off a shelf in a shop, wanting to eat sugar for afternoon tea, not doing their homework, refusing to put on shoes for school, using bad language, the list goes on (LOL my 2.5 year old is currently trying to convince DP he should have a cup of coffee- should DP let him choose?)

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