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    Default Lesbian mums, what do you do on Father's Day?

    I'm not gay, but my mum is and I never knew my dad. I was lucky because Mum's birthday falls on or around father's day, so I got to make her a birthday card instead. I just asked my lover what he used to do as he doesn't have a dad either, but he can't remember. Grandfather's day seems like a nice idea.

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    Default Lesbian mums, what do you do on Father's Day?

    Yes we will do mother's day for both us

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    Default Lesbian mums, what do you do on Father's Day?

    Quote Originally Posted by pisces00 View Post
    As the wife of a sperm donor for lesbian couples we have never had a card on fathers day or call etc which is ok but we are friends with all recipients and not once have any of them given my hubby say, a bottle of wine or thank you token. Its like they forget that they approached us for sperm. Dont get me wrong they are all great friends and wonderful mums its just that a thank you card or something wouldnt have gone astray.
    I understand where your coming from lol and yes I'm a lesbian carrying my first child and my donor is unknown having gone through ivf. It's not about being the child's father which by the way he is the biological father!!!! It's about thanking him for the gift of life. You could just buy a card from you and your partner saying thank you if you dont want your child involved and if you do get your child to make a card or whatever it doesn't say happy fathers day it says thank you for the oppurtunity of life. About the living thing, I'm forever grateful that my mum ignored all those people telling her to get an abortion and I'm forever letting her know and not on mothers day. I do it on the day she conceived me.
    It is a sensitive topic and I don't want to annoy anybody I just guess it's how I feel about it because my life could not have existed.

    As for us and the fathers day thing, yeah the grand parents which both don't live near us and doing their own things prolly send them the card or god fathers or uncles I don't really know. Might start some sort of tradition with child by writing a thank you note to our unknown donor and tying it to a balloon and releasing it or something I don't know. I want my children to know where they came from and how they came into the world. As for giving them some sort of heartache about their biological father, I grew up knowing I had an older brother that was out there and it never left my mind and I found him in my adult life and even though we aren't close I feel satisfiedthat I found him and I will not have a problem if my child decides that they want to find donor or siblings and I will support them and be realistic with their expectations.as if said just my opinion about the whole situation

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    Default Lesbian mums, what do you do on Father's Day?

    Quote Originally Posted by rainbow road View Post
    Yes we will do mother's day for both us
    Cool. U won't believe how proud yr child will be.

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    Default Lesbian mums, what do you do on Father's Day?

    Quote Originally Posted by samken View Post
    Not a lesbian but a great believer in allowing kids to express themselves when I wasnt available for mother's day my mum stood in. I'm sure if DD dad wasn't available two doting grandfathers would have stood up.

    I'm curious on mother's day do you both attend?
    Our kids are too young, but I'm likely to attend just because I'm a SAHM and DP works full time. But last year we were in Singapore on Mother's Day and they had a Mother's Day dinner at the hotel and they gave us both Mother's Day gifts which was very sweet of them :-)

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    We celebrate the grandfathers

    DD's school sends home Father's Day "presents" for each of us and we're cool with that. It's kind of a non issue

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    Also a non issue here.

    When DS1 pre school told the kids about making a "father day' gift DS said "I have two Mums' " and they answer ok, so you can make them a gift and all was fine so I was told by teacher.

    Sunday is our family day so also is a non
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    On a side note
    pisces00 your husband gave a gift, has he said he would like a card etc.? Or maybe its your issue!


 

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