i posted a little while ago..anyway i just remain confused about my realtionship with DH. everyone i talk to IRL tells me to leave..at times i feel so close to doing that. .....but what was the final straw that made u leave?..i mean besides obvious things like being physically assaulted or coming home and finding your DH in bed with someone...more like insidious lack of respect / nothing in common/ lack of shared goals / values etc i feel is more my issues...so what was it that finally made u just say thats it im done??? and how did u know that it wasnt a phase (u know young family , everyone tired etc) ..i guess thats what confuses me most??