Well, it is now 5 weeks after the birth of DS2 (DD1 born by emergency C/S, so this is was my first vaginal birth). I truly wasn't prepared for what I would go through after my VBAC - the immense and significant pain immediately following the birth, not being able to walk properly for 4 weeks and counting, the swelling around my perineum etc that seems to worsen when I walk more than 10 minutes, incontinence, and constant tingling discomfort around my urethra - I was way too concerned about getting the said VBAC in the first place! I know that by having a forceps delivery this increased the injury and pain, but it is still a shock - noone seems to talk about Stage 4!
The reason I decided to have a VBAC in the first place was to quicken my recovery time, but it has been the same as my C/S. I wasn't able to interact with my 3 year old at all for 3 weeks, as I was mostly in bed/couch from the pain and discomfort. I'm sure this isn't a normal case, as friends I know were off to zoo's or walking their bubs the week they left hospital.
I have just taken my first look at 'the area' and wondered whether this is the 'new normal', or whether things eventually get back to the way they were before a VB. I had a second degree tear, to about 1mm from my backside and a labial tear, and the whole area looks like it has dropped down (perineum and backside) - so in other words, it still looks really swollen. It is significant enough that I now walk differently.
Hence the reason for my post. I am in need of some personal feedback from those who have had a forceps delivery! Did your privates get back to normal eventually, or will I have to learn to walk a little differently so people don't think I have something stuck where it shouldn't be!!??
I have been doing kegals several times a day, which does seem to be helping the healing, but they also make the area around my urethra tingle in discomfort and I still can't manage to hold my pee when I go to the loo. I guess I do have a way to go, but I would love to get out to run after my spirited pre-schooler and do some proper exercise one day soon.
Sorry for the rant. I am just sick to death of myself at the moment! Humfthp!