There's are my thoughts on it.
There is nothing wrong with being selfish. Everyone is selfish. If you're completely selfless you're a total push over and probably miserable in your life.
Am I selfish that 5 days a week I get up early and go to the gym meaning that I am never home to get my kids breakfast (their dad does it). Yes I am.
Am I selfish that even though financially we don't need me to I went to university because I selfishly decided I wanted a degree? Yes I am.
Am I selfish that every Friday night, after a big week the kids go to bed early so that my husband and I have a night alone together every week, even though the majority of their friends get to stay up late? Yes we are.
Is my husband selfish that he is so determined in his career it takes a lot of time away from us as a a family even though it provides us with a great life? Yes he is.
Are any of these things damaging my family? No. Are they taking time away from our kids? Yes. Is this a bad thing? No. Who on earth would ever want to become a parent if it meant that you had to lose complete identity of yourself and morph in to a martyr who never, ever, ever, does anything that would take away even a minute of your time with them. If I lived like that I'd end up killing myself so for me and my family being selfish is best for us.
There is nothing wrong with being selfish...as long as you aren't taking it to the extreme. You also don't need to do things because it will benefit your family in some way. Me exercising every morning has nothing to do with my family. I do it for me because I Bluddy well LOVE it and it makes me feel GREAT!
I think I am missing what you actually think selfish means. This is the definition of selfish-
devoted to or caring only for oneself; concerned primarily with one's own interests, benefits, welfare, etc., regardless of others.
I have not heard one example on this thread that would be classed as the above, so therefore, no one here is selfish and so I fail to see you keep trying to get people to admit to being selfish, because no one here actually falls into that category.
I can walk into a doctors surgery and walk out 10 min later with anti depressants it's like getting lollies.
I'm not referring to an alcoholic. There are parents that just don't care and are "sick" when it suits the situation.
Some people are bad parents full stop. The reason they just don't care. And there is no cure for that.
No need to roll eyes I give sympathy and support tto people that need it.
And I am entitled to an opinion.
Getting your nails done, hair done, partying till 5am, making your boyfriend the centre of your world while your children are suffering is not a mental illness no matter how much a proffessional would like it to be.
Sometimes it's about responisiblity for your actions and the consequences that follow them.... Something that seems to have left some people.
We live in a world where we can blame anything and everything for our misfortunes... Except ourselves because that hurts and that would mean taking responsibility.
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