i am definately selfish.
i have studied horticulture purely for enjoyment, am putting my 9mo in daycare next tuesday to have a girls day massage, even having our first night away from them in a month for my sil's 40th birthday.
i'll happily admit i'm selfish in that context and there are people out there who think it is.
selfish also comes with personal boundaries though - i would never go out drinking and not be able to afford formula or nappies. unfortunately for whatever reason some parents do think this is okay.