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    Quote Originally Posted by share a book View Post
    Nobody has to admit anything. But I think selfish is to do something that is only for you. Getting a tattoo will be a decision made based on my wants that will only be for me. How is that not selfish?
    I think that's self-indulgent, rather than selfish.

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    I see certain things as being selfish, but I also don't see selfish as a negative. My first post was about things I have personally considered, which were for selfish reasons. I cannot speak for others or why they do things, only for myself, and in my opinion sometimes decisions are made for selfish reasons.

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    Quote Originally Posted by share a book View Post
    Sorry if I offended anyone, I just fail to see how making selfish choices is bad. It is bad if it adversely affects the child/ren, but if everything is ok and you can afford the time and money, doing things for selfish reasons can be a positive thing. But if people want to assume otherwide and look for reasons to be offended, I really can't do much about that.
    Good point. Selfishness is putting yourself first. This is only bad if the kids are negatively impacted to a certain degree.

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    I think the moment you start throwing the S word around, the other S word inevitably hits the fan.

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    I see selfish as an act where you put yourself first at the detriment of others. Being self absorbed is putting yourself first, but not always at a negative to others, although it can lead to selfishness.

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    I think you'll find things like alcohol abuse are often caused by mental illness. As are becoming addicted to different things, even shopping to extreme when you have no money - it is self destructive behaviour and a lot of the time is linked to mental illness.
    This is called dual diagnosis and it is VERY common. Someone with a mental illness can often have an addiction problem, sometimes to self medicate. Sometimes just as a connection to the illness i.e. BPD suffers often show high risk behaviours, such as drug use. Sometimes, seen in isolation they are seen and treated as just drug users. But with dual diagnosis model there are seen as inextricably linked and treated thus so.

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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    I see selfish as an act where you put yourself first at the detriment of others. Being self absorbed is putting yourself first, but not always at a negative to others, although it can lead to selfishness.



    This is called dual diagnosis and it is VERY common. Someone with a mental illness can often have an addiction problem, sometimes to self medicate. Sometimes just as a connection to the illness i.e. BPD suffers often show high risk behaviours, such as drug use. Sometimes, seen in isolation they are seen and treated as just drug users. But with dual diagnosis model there are seen as inextricably linked and treated thus so.
    Is BPD BiPolar Disorder?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Refresh View Post
    Is BPD BiPolar Disorder?
    Borderline Personality Disorder. But Bipolar has a very high incidence of drug use as well, often to self medicate for the highs and lows

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    Quote Originally Posted by share a book View Post
    Nobody has to admit anything. But I think selfish is to do something that is only for you. Getting a tattoo will be a decision made based on my wants that will only be for me. How is that not selfish?
    I think maybe we just have different interpretations on the meaning of the word "selfish". To me, I would not consider getting a tattoo selfish in itself, as you're not doing something primarily for yourself to the detriment of those around you. Now, if you were to get said tattoo at a time where, say, your child really needed some new clothes as they had grown out of the current ones, and you put your own tattoo before purchasing clothes for your child (and couldnt afford them as a direct result), that is what I would consider as a selfish act. Putting yourself first occasionally and treating yourself isn't one and the same as being selfish IMO.
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    Yep that's how I see it too Pink...

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