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    Default Im at my wits end :(

    I need advise!
    Ds is a few weeks off 3 and almost over night he has turned into a horrible monster. Im usually such a calm mum.. No yelling.. No smacking.. But tonight I smacked him I hate myself for it.. I need advise on what to do with him.
    He is constantly whining..... He keeps smacking his head when I dare tell him off.. If I tell him no to do something he yells "time out" so I havent been using that he seems to like it. He is pushing me and testing me with everything.. When we go shopping and he wont walk.. He throws tantys till I pick him up. He climbs out of the shopping trolly.. Smacks anything he is near when he is angry or frustrated.
    I was all about redirection but I feel he is at an age where he knows hes doing the wrong thing. He wasnt like this 3 weeks ago.. He was such a good little boy.. I dont know what to do anymore please help me

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    Bump..

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    I have no advice but I do feel your pain. My 2.5yr old daughter has turned into a completely different child in the last week as well. She won't even sleep!

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    One of my boys went through this recently. (They will be 4 in Oct)

    Forgive me- laptop about to die so I'm trying to be quick.

    I am a teacher and I usually work 4 days a week. Last term I was full time, and I think it impacted the boys immensely.

    My first week of holidays, B was horrible- just as you described. He not only took it out on me (I was the main target) but anything to do with 'girls' he was mad at- both my boys are hugely aware I am the only 'girl' in the family.. and it got to the point I was crying to DP despairing for B, thinking he will be a girl-hater after all my hard work, and that he will have no friends etc etc.

    I just continued on my usual path of calmness and redirection, although I will also admit that I would not take any rubbish from him either, and if he continued his negativity towards me I would ignore him and lavish attention on his brother.

    He eventually just snapped out of it, soI can only assume it was a phase..

    Just hang in there and continue with what you're doing.. and don't feel bad about the smack.. no one is perfect all the time, and I bet you've already apologised to him and told him that you know you shouldn't have done it

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    Fingers cossed hes going to snap out if it.. I have written 3pages of rules for dp and myself to follow.. I have tightened his routine so I have everything covered.. I have a plan of action for everything he throws at me

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    Another teacher here - I agree with everything Nomsie has said especially ignoring the inappropriate behaviour.
    I'm thinking he might be old enough for a positive re-inforcement reward chart or something.. Lots of rules for little children can be hard, it's really powerful to catch them doing the right thing - and I mean anything really simple eg: 'Gee you sat really nicely then, you must feel really grown up and proud of yourself' - doing it lots and lots until they are being recognised for the things they are doing right not wrong.
    It's important for kids to notice the good stuff they do and give them recognition for that.
    Don't beat yourself up over it either

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    My DS did this to me. w found out after trying everything that he was frustrated and unable to tel us. If everything on your list of rules fails go back to basics. He might just be tired or bored.
    Or teething.
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    Its been an awsome day. I have now a toy bucket.. If he missuses toys they go in there for 24hrs.. Time out is now in a place he cant see us and scream and kick things to get our attention.. All meals are at the table.. There is no snacking and no junk.. Because of the no snacking hes sat there and eaten so well. No issues all day.. It was my fault he was acting out

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    Don't be to hard an yourself. Some kids just thrive on more bounderies than others. I took away some before he was ready and he lashed out. Your not alone.

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