Last edited by Witwicky; 30-07-2012 at 21:36.
I understood what you meant op I think it is more a personality type then a trend though. Some people just hate not having all the attention and they do come off as dismissive and rude (I think a lot of the time they may not even realise that they are doing it, and how it makes others feel).
Personally if someone tells me something they are struggling with, and I have a similar story I might tell them about it, but also go on to say how I resolved it or what helped. Sometimes that too is not as helpful as I'd like and I try to just listen and offer support.
No one is saying you shouldn't vent your frustrations or ask for support, that is what forums are for (for the most part ). Just try to offer your support and listen when people are asking for help in return . Please don't be paranoid about posting or asking for help, that really is not what this is about and I'm sure the op didn't intend to make people shy about posting
No, she didn't and has gone out of her way to explain xoxoI'm sure the op didn't intend to make people shy about posting
I'm a psych, and it is sooo common for people to feel guilty about the hard time they are experiencing because "others have it worse". I suspect a few of them have been on the receiving end of these 'competitions'
How funny that I come in to this thread.
The other week I was left speechless and thinking WTF to a friend?!?!?
In relation to me... I am relatively lucky that I have only been dealt a few crap things and totally get that everyone has their own crap they have to deal with, and in most cases alot worse than mine. No-one truly knows everything about everyone so a little compassion/empathy could go along way!
Last edited by 3InATub; 31-07-2012 at 13:28.
I've known babies born very early, 23 to 28w, and other people say they know what it's like, their bub was prem too at 38w... My dd was 36w and not classed as a prem, just called an early bird. Not comparable!
The other day she also complained her legs was bruised from working out too hard, and that we all needed to be grateful for our legs...one of my closest friends sent her some pretty terse messages regarding her lack of sensitivity to some people leg related issues (me)...'twas amusing... She really is such a drama queen, and incredible insensitive.
Anyway, I notice it a lot and it's annoying. I also hate that if one shares good news, then other people never say "Congratulations dude, you really deserve it", they say "what about me?"....
It's fecking annoying...bring back one up bragging...at least it's more positive...
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