I'm in the wait and see camp too
That's like saying hmmm I might get breast cancer so should I chop off my own breast just in case?
I have boys. And I have a DH whose foreskin "stuck" but was corrected with minor surgery and did not require circumcision. If a doctor found something wrong that required medical correction in my children well fair enough but I refuse to have surgery performed on my children "just in case".
Last edited by BH-KatiesMum; 01-08-2012 at 16:29. Reason: inflamatory wording
Thank-you BenTas 83 and Father. It's nice to have a males point of view on the issue. As my Husband also pointed out, as women we really have no idea what goes on down there! And thank-you to everyone who has been able to provide us with UN-bias advice. We certainty have a lot of food for thought. Thanks again!
Last edited by addie7758; 01-08-2012 at 08:25.
But as a man who has had something go wrong, your partner only knows what it is like when something goes wrong. He has no idea what the majority of the uncicred population go through - which is absolutely nothing.
I personally wouldn't be doing anything either, just in case isn't a good enough reason for me.
Sorry, I find the 'm' word gets thrown around far too much in these threads. If you feel that removing a child's foreskin is mutilation, then it doesn't matter whether it's done routinely or for a medical reason. The end result is the same thing, a penis sans foreskin.
Using the 'm' word insults everyone who has had their child circumcised, for whatever reason. Please consider this before using the word in this context.
Last edited by HugsBunny; 01-08-2012 at 08:23.
I would do it, it sounds like you abd your dh have undergone a lot of trauma because of this ... But this is a decision you abd dh need to make together
... when your bub is bigger you can just explain exactly why you made that decision ... I certainly don't think he will hate you
My dh was circd in the 70s as everyone was ... I asked him if he felt he was mutilated ... He said he has never thought about it, it's normal for him he knows no different. I'm sorry your dh has had to go through that.
My ds was not circd ... Dh and I are both at a bit of a loss as to what to do with that piece of equipment so it's usually me that deals with it ... Just had the convo with ds 4yo about pulling it back for cleaning
And in my opinion, anyone whom refers to circumcision as mutilation clearly is UN-educated in the topic. No loving mother or father would allow their child to be mutilated. As I stated earlier we just want what is best for our son.
I went through the same thing as you. I agonised over it, should I get it done or not? My sons father had issues when he was younger which resulted in him being circumcised at age 12. He had a tight foreskin and it couldn't be retracted.
In the end I decided not to do it, now I regret it!! My son (7yo) has the same issue. His foreskin is so tight it can't be retracted, he has had several infections since age 4. His foreskin is so tight that when he does a wee, it looks like the wee fills up the head then squirts out (sorry don't really know how to describe it). He is always telling me his doodle is sore, it's heartbreaking.
The doctors have tried treating it with steroid cream to "stretch" the skin which has worked a little but it has now been decided by the pediatrician that the best thing to do is surgery.
There is so much evidence for and against on this issue and everyone is going to have an opinion. I wish you and your husband luck with the upcoming birth of your son.
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