Hi, I am currently in the final stretch of pregnancy and my partner and myself are contemplating getting our son circumcised at birth.
Now please don't think we are making this decision lightly. All I want to do is what is best for my baby.
The only real reason we are debating the issue is because my partner unfortunately had to have the procedure done a few years back as a young adult due to a medical issue. He was unable to pull back his foreskin without experiencing extreme pain, in the end it got so bad we were having intercourse one night and were extremely alarmed to discover he had actually torn the foreskin which resulted in a lot of blood loss and A LOT of pain. Now I had to stand back and watch his slow recovery where he was unable to sleep comfortably, he couldn't walk properly for almost a week, and months of pain killers. It would have taken him close to 3 months before he was a-okay. Granted he is fine now and has not had a problem since, so it was well worth the money and recovery time.
It just kills me to think our son may also have to deal with this later on in his life. I would hate for him to go through what my partner did.
But we have no way of knowing if this will actually effect our son. For all we know he could go about his life with no problems what so ever. So here lies our problem. Do we eliminate the risk altogether and have him circumcised or do we "just see how he goes".
Of course I would never want to put my baby through any unnecessary pain but I have been told by medical staff that it is much better to do it as an infant. Also being a first time mum, I am scared enough that I will do something wrong and if I will cope with the demands of motherhood,
I fear putting him through circumcision may make matters worse. HOWEVER my feelings will be put aside to be replaced by my sons need's.
So my question is this, are there any parents out there whom have had to make a similar decision and if so what was the outcome. I am not looking for someone to tell me I am a horrible person for considering the procedure, I am simply a soon to be mother wanting to do the best for her baby.
Any productive and or serious advice would be very much appreciated.