I got pregnant at 18 and had no help at all.
If the same thing happened to my daughter I'd give her all the support she needed. If she was in school I'd do as much as I could to make sure she stayed in school and got a good career so didn't have to depend on centrelink.
I would feel disappointed, but would support her emotionally and financially during her pregnancy and motherhood if that is what she wanted.
If she opted to terminate, then I would support her emotionally and financially (pay for the termination and subsequent counselling.
I was in the middle of studying when I fell pregnant (DH was working full time) and once DD was born I returned to part time work and recommended studying externally when she was about 1 year old.
We moved into a rental before DD was born, got married roughly the same time, bought our first property when she was, finished uni and changed jobs, had DS, DH started his own business allowing me to be a SAHM, and we've just bought our second property.
- I know there are folks on here who have successfully studied with kids later in life. So I'm not saying its not possible.
I would be disappointed, but provide whatever support necessary.
I would strongly encourage and support her in obtaining a career and education (look after the baby, pay for courses etc), as I believe it's very dangerous to put yourself in a position where you need to rely on other people.
The way I see it, the child of a young parent is no less deserving of having a SAHM than a child of an older mum. So if a young mum wants to stay at home to raise her child until thy reach school age, and has to receive welfare in order for this to be possible, then I fully support that. However, I would encourage them to start considering their options regarding work/study as the child gets closer to school age.
I had my son at 18. I lived with my parents and stayed at home with him until he was 2, and then I moved out and did my year 12 through tafe. And next year I will be starting uni! I can tell you now, if I hadn't have had my child at a young age, I wouldn't have achieved all that I have so far. He gives me the motivation to aspire for more - the same can be said of many young mothers that I know. There is such a bad stereotype against young mothers in our society, thanks to the very few that set a bad example, that the majority of us feel immense pressure to prove that we are more than just the typical "dole bludgers" that we are made out to be.
Anyway, as for how I would feel....I would feel a little disappointed at first, especially if the circumstances were less than ideal. Mainly because I would hope for more for my child, I wouldn't want to see her struggle like I did. But I would be supportive nonetheless, as I understand how hard being a young mum can be at times! I would help out where possible, whilst also ensuring that she takes full responsibility for raising her own child.
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