I would like to think that I would offer love, support, and advice to help her help herself. To help her to be confident in her own decisions. I would like to think that I would be able to give support that would increase her options.
So hard to know what I would actually do if that time ever came....I imagine thing's would also be dependent on her personality and aspirations and the situation that lead her to that point....
Last edited by Ffrenchknickers; 29-07-2012 at 15:29.
As far as falling pregnant young, I was a bit older, 21 and not in a relationship but it was the best thing that ever happened to me. I would probably be dead if it wasn't for ds so I definitely wouldn't be too worried about age or ruining her life, I would just want to be available for support. Not that I want any of my children in the same position I was, I just don't think it's necessarily a bad thing.
Last edited by Ffrenchknickers; 29-07-2012 at 15:26.
I had my own child at 17 so I would support my daughter in any way I could I have to say I'd be disappointed but I'd be there for her
On the termination thing, I know my parents would have supported me whichever choice I made (they are against abortion too), but I do remember them saying they were so happy I had decided to keep the baby, even though they felt disappointed FOR me (not IN me) that a lot of the dreams I had for my future would have to be put on hold. Thats the type of parent I aim to be.
I would be shattered inside though if one of my kids decided not to continue with a pregnancy, but would support my kids through anything, even if I didn't agree with it.
I'm sure that realistically I would be shattered. I don't think any parent necessarily wants their child to have a baby at a young age or before they have had the chance to experience life a little. My hope for my son is that he will have the opportunity to finish school, go onto futher education, travel, work and enjoy his life before settling down with a family.That said, I would always be there for my son/daughter, and support their decision 100% if they were prepared to step up and raise their child.
Also in regards to termination... It doesn't matter whether we agree or not. I think agreeing or disagreeing with them is completely irrelevant. It's a personal choice and everyone deserves the right to choose, and the respect for making that decision.... no matter what age they are, or their own personal reasons for making that decision.
I don't really agree with discussing termination on here, as it may make people feel alienated or peer pressured to comply with others opinions. It's a very sensitive topic and probably very uncomfortable for some people.
I understand that everyone is only giving their own personal opinions... but... I don't think people need to be making a point about the fact that they disagree with it. I just think it's inconsiderate and may make some people feel judged basically... It's too controversial.
I would support my daughter as long as she didn't expect to live off welfare and bludge. I'd do whatever I could to ensure my daughter could finish school/uni and get set up with a good career (staying with me rent free, babysitting, not having to work as long as she's studying etc).
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