This was me! After the initial shock my entire family supported me. My partner at the time studied at uni & got a full time job but our parents also contributed to purchasing items for bub & we lived with my mum. I studied & worked & my mum helped support me in that. I'd do the same if my daughter fell pregnant at 18 (although I would prefer she didn't).
Hard to say. I would support her but there would be conditions. No bludging off the dole for starters. I'd be happy for her to take enough time for maternity leave (same as a working mum). If she hadn't finished her VCE I would insist on that. Then tertiary study in the field of her choice or an apprenticeship or a job. I would like her to support herself & her child as much as possible. And I would insist the father do the same & help out. Or he could sign away his rights entirely.
Since DD is barely 11 months though who knows..
Honestly ? I would be supportive.
My grandmother fell pregnant at that age in the 1950s to a fella who did not want anything to do with her. She had my Mum (her only child) with the full support of her family.
My Mum has had 3 children who all have given her grandkids - so my Grandmother is a Great-Grandmother 5 times over.
I know it would be so hard, but think about the flow on effect. How much we've enriched my Grandmother's life and vice versa.
This wouldn't have happened if her family shunned her.
Thankyou all of you lovely mothers! I just want to know how to react when I tell my mother.. I however have been with my DP for three years, both have full time jobs and have bought a house together.. So as you can see its quite different to what you all THINK may happen
I also see the positive in the fact that now my child will get to spend many more years with her grandparents and great grands! Something I wish I had everyday
Honestly, Id be disappointed because sometimes I wish I didnt get pregnant so young, but at the same time Id be supportive and keep my opinions to myself. (at least I hope I would)
I was 19 when I got pregnant. Was TERRIFIED to tell my dad. He was the last person I told....the absolute last....the check out chick at our local shop knew before him (not really, but it makes my point ) When I finally told him his reaction was ".....I dont know what to say, but I know that Im happy". Hopefully your parents will be happy for you.
I would be completely supportive and try to help her as much as I could. I was 20 when DH and I fell pregnant with DD, only 2 years older, so it would be hypocritical of me to be disappointed.
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