It's not what I'd choose for either of my girls, but if it happened, I'd be there for them however they needed me to be.
I'm the original poster and thought I'd share with you guys my life now, my daughter is 9 months old and I still get a feeling my mother hasn't completely warned up to my daughter yet. My dad is apsolutly great with her an has so much love. But can't help that feel my mum has a wall up. Resentment maye? I'm not sure .
Oops, posted and saw how old this is. Sorry OP your mum sent supportive now, but great that your dad is! Is you DP still around?
TBH I would do everything within my control to not be in this situation with my son or my daughter (ie. lots of education on birth control and responsible sexuality).
If they make the choice to become parents at 18yo then I hope they both have jobs and live in their own place. In that case I'd be very happy for them.
If it's an unwanted/unprepared pregnancy, I would support them to figure out what they want to do about it, prob with some counseling.
Such a huge decision at such a young age. And would support them in whatever ways I can.
But I would be disappointed for them and sad that they have to face such a big challenge :-(
I have been the '18 and pregnant' daughter. My parents were amazing, never judged or dragged me over the coals, just have me the support and information I needed to make my decision on what to do regarding my pregnancy. I wasn't a dumb kid out rooting around, I had a long term boyfriend and used 2 methods of contraception religiously and both failed.
There is an entire 'days of our lives' back story I won't go into but ultimately I chose to terminate the pregnancy after a lot of consultation with support groups and counselling services. My parents have never made me feel wrong or right just supported me 100%.
I was the "18 and pregnant" daughter. My family disowned me until a few months before I was due. And my mum has never been overly supportive (even though she was 17 when she had me and gave me up to my grandparents).
If any of my daughters come to me as a teen and say they are pregnant, yes I will be disappointed BUT I will also be supportive and help however I can without taking the responsibility off them. I will never tell them their life is over- because I don't believe it is. I believe they can still go on to achieve wonderful things and fulfil their dreams it may just take a little longer. I hope we have enough of an open communication relationship that they are smart and DON'T get themselves pregnant but I also understand mistakes/accidents happen and the last thing they need is to be told how stupid they are and be made to feel ashamed.
Me + he = dd1 (July 07), dd2 (July 10), dd3 (August 13), dd4 (due may 14)
Wow... This thread is nearly three years old.. !
crazy to see how many people commented.
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