I would respect my daughter as an ADULT and a WOMAN and support her in any decision she made.
I too am shocked at the people who say they wouldn't "allow" their ADULT daughter to access welfare. At 18, I know where I'd tell my parents to shove their ultimatums.
When I went to my parents at 21, single & 21 weeks pregnant (no option to terminate) their support was amazing and without it I would hate to think how my life would be. I would like to think I would be as supportive as they were and offer my unconditional love to my daughter.
I do get where people are coming from with the whole "end of life" thing, haha. I fell pregnant at 19. It has made things a lot harder and there are definitely times where I miss my freedom like crazy.
I will say, however, that having DS has made me more hard working and ambitious than ever. Going back to uni next year is going to be tough but I probably wouldn't have gone back to uni had I not had DS....plus I wouldn't choose not to have DS if I was given the chance to turn back time.
So I would be a little sad for my hypotherical daughter but if she insisted on having a baby at 18 then hey, it has it's own set of joys that no amount of traveling can bring. I'd secretly be quite excited for a grandbaby too
I am 20 years old and although have not achieved as much as you I believe I am mentally physically and emotionally ready to have my baby.... but I was still **** scared to tell my parents even though they respected my dp and we have been together 3 1/2 years.
My mother has some sort of power I swear! When I was little she would always say "mother's know everything" well I think she may just ...
As I found out u was pregnant while she was away on a 3 month holiday. I picked her up from the airport and half an hour on the way home she asked me if I was pregnant .... how she knew is beyond me.
Well we got home as I still live with my parents (only to save a deposit fir a house, I'm not a bludger) bad within a couple of weeks she started clearing out my now nursery .... in excitement.
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I am so glad to see your doing well. And when it happens you will be more courages then ever!
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I would hope that by 18 my dd will have a career lined up or in the making and her own place with a steady relationship and i would be nothing other than happy for her. I wouldnt support her financially as i hope by 18 my children will have sorted themselves out, as i had. But if i can babysit while she works, or wants a night off then i would but i would do that for her if she was 30 too.
It would really be none of my business. If she was left in the lurch by the father and wasnt coping i would help out a bit more too but at 18 she is more than capapble of raising a child and still having a great life.
to me, theres a big difference between 15 and 17. but not 18-30.
if that makes sence
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I'm so glad to hear your mc was a false alarm.
I'd be unbelievably excited to be a nana, just like my mother was when I told her I was pregnant at 18 she loves DS to bits and calls me constantly asking when I'm coming over so she can see her baby and is already planning on what they're going to do together when he's old enough (only 15 weeks atm) to sleepover at Gammy's house.
And wow I'm amazed at how many people assume that their kids would have to be on welfare, etc! DF and I rent our own place, own both our cars, pay all our own bills and have a household income of 65k... Why does everyone automatically jump to the assumption that young parents are dole bludgers? Drives me up the wall!!
And you know what, if my 18 y/o daughter decides she wants to be a SAHM instead of studying, then I'll support her in that too. Not everything in life comes down to how many degrees you have, nor is Uni going to go anywhere if she decides later on that she wants to study.
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