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    Default How would you react if your daughter were 18 & Preg?

    As the title suggests, Im curious to see how people THINK they would react or how they HAVE reacted to a situation like this. Stories please and honesty!

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    I would support her and the bub in any way I could.

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    I would support her with whatever she wanted to do. If she wanted to have the baby I would do whatever I could to make sure she didn't give up on study and a career - I would help her financially, babysit often, whatever she needed.

    I would also help her sort out whatever she wanted to do in terms of the father - if they weren't together I would help her with organising child support, mediation, court orders etc. If they were together I would make sure she knew she could always count on me enough to know that she didn't have to stay with him just because of the baby.

    And finally, if she wanted to terminate I would support her in that as well, and make sure it was 100% her decision and no one else's.

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    Total honesty:

    Our agreed plan is if she was planning to just stay at home and live off welfare, she'd have no chance. We wouldn't let her live off handouts; she'd have to grow up and take responsibility.
    If she was absolutely determined to keep it and support it, and couldn't afford to move out yet, she'd have to get a full time job after it was born and pay for it's total upkeep.

    If the father was already working full time and they could rent a house, or she was working and renting, she can do whatever she wants.

    What would actually happen, I don't know. How can I say? DD is only 5 at the moment. If she was 18 I could answer this better, but all I have is what we think we'd do.

    This thread has the potential for a very quick closure.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ToughLove View Post
    Total honesty:

    Our agreed plan is if she was planning to just stay at home and live off welfare, she'd have the option of termination or adoption, her choice, paid by us.
    If she was absolutely determined to keep it and support it, and couldn't afford to move out yet, she'd have to get a full time job after it was born and pay for it's total upkeep.

    If the father was already working full time and they could rent a house, or she was working and renting, she can do whatever she wants.

    What would actually happen, I don't know. How can I say? DD is only 5 at the moment. If she was 18 I could answer this better, but all I have is what we think we'd do.

    This thread has the potential for a very quick closure.
    For real? You would not allow your 18 year old to accept available welfare.

    At 18 i think i would support my child in getting out into the world and getting her own life.

    Under 18 (not legally allowed to a- drive b- have their own rent etc)I would support them to finish their hsc etc.

    If my child wanted to study or work full time i would baby sit on fays they could not get childcare

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    Quote Originally Posted by shelle65 View Post
    I would support her with whatever she wanted to do. If she wanted to have the baby I would do whatever I could to make sure she didn't give up on study and a career - I would help her financially, babysit often, whatever she needed.

    I would also help her sort out whatever she wanted to do in terms of the father - if they weren't together I would help her with organising child support, mediation, court orders etc. If they were together I would make sure she knew she could always count on me enough to know that she didn't have to stay with him just because of the baby.

    And finally, if she wanted to terminate I would support her in that as well, and make sure it was 100% her decision and no one else's.
    This absolutely!

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    I would be disappointed, but I would support my daughter with whatever choice she made.

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    If my child felt strongly she wanted to be a sahm I would help her do that. An 18 year old and her child have just as much right to that bonding time as anyone else. I would help her study, work, whatever. Some things are just more important than money.

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    Quote Originally Posted by shelle65 View Post
    I would support her with whatever she wanted to do. If she wanted to have the baby I would do whatever I could to make sure she didn't give up on study and a career - I would help her financially, babysit often, whatever she needed.

    I would also help her sort out whatever she wanted to do in terms of the father - if they weren't together I would help her with organising child support, mediation, court orders etc. If they were together I would make sure she knew she could always count on me enough to know that she didn't have to stay with him just because of the baby.

    And finally, if she wanted to terminate I would support her in that as well, and make sure it was 100% her decision and no one else's.
    Absolutely! Well said.

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    Support her with what ever she wants to do.
    I got pregnant at 18, it's not the end of the world.

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