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    I'm 41 with fibroids also, if you really want this baby, as pp have said please keep it, you will be fine , falling pregnant is very hard at our age naturally, I would give anything to be pregnant right now, and i believe things do happen for a reason, this baby is your little miracle , follow your heart, the rest will fall into place xxx

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    I am going through the same type of thing so feel free to pm me.

    I kept the baby. There was no way in hell I would ever get rid of it knowing how much love I had for her the moment I found out.

    Mothers will move heaven and earth to accommodate for a baby, and if he doesn't fall in line with that, then you will be just fine!!!

    Don't let anyone else pressure you into giving up the most previous gift you could ever ask for!!

    And let's just remember that you don't know if this is your one and only chance.

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    Only you can make this decision but if you're having thoughts that you don't want to terminate then I think that's your answer. If you do it simply for him you may grow to resent him.

    Given your history if I was you I would keep it, and tell him to be as involved as he wanted.

    I fell pregnant at 21 and my DP wanted an abortion (we had been together for 6 months maybe). I didn't do it and now we are a beautiful little family and he absolutely dotes over our 15 month old DS.

    Good luck xx

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    At the risk of coming across rude and getting flamed, the guy sounds like a douche.

    What a fantastic little miracle you have growing inside you. As PP have said, not much difference between 9 months and 12 months!

    I feel for your situation, but this may be your only chance. I hope it works out for you and I hope that the bf sticks by you.

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    I agree with everyone else. Make the decision that is right for you. You've no idea if you will fall pregnant again in the future. You want a baby - you've got one on the way. Unless you have serious doubts about being able to provide for the child solo, which I doubt since you afforded IVF & you were going to have a bub before you started dating your current boyfriend, then there's no reason to terminate based solely on his pressure.

    Good luck.

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    "I'll be ready in a year" is a lie, designed to pressure you to terminate on the belief that you will get another chance. You won't.

    Almost this exact same thread was posted by another member about a year ago. She ended up terminating and guess what? Her boyfriend decided he actually never wanted kids at all and refused to try again in a year. She was devastated and of course the relationship was over after that anyway.

    Good luck, being a single mum is the best, most rewarding thing you will ever do!

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    If a man isn't ready at 37 to have a child I would be asking some serious questions.
    He wants you to abort and then TTC in 12 months? How strange.
    Baby isn't going to be born for another 8 months.
    Could he possibly have just told you he wants kids by really doesn't?

    Since you have been through IVF it pretty serious you want a baby.
    Keep the baby, if he sticks around then great if he doesn't then it's probably for the best. Do you really want to be with a man who expects you to abort knowing full well how you feel...

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    I think you've been given lots of good advice here.

    I really feel for you, what an awful position your boyfriend has put you in. I think if he really wanted a baby he would be over the moon - how can he possibly think that he will want a baby in a year if he would happily see your current pregnancy terminated without a second thought?

    As a PP has said, wave him goodbye and embrace the new and precious life inside you.

    Good luck.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Janesmum123 View Post
    If a man isn't ready at 37 to have a child I would be asking some serious questions.
    He wants you to abort and then TTC in 12 months? How strange.
    Baby isn't going to be born for another 8 months.
    Could he possibly have just told you he wants kids by really doesn't?

    Since you have been through IVF it pretty serious you want a baby.
    Keep the baby, if he sticks around then great if he doesn't then it's probably for the best. Do you really want to be with a man who expects you to abort knowing full well how you feel...
    I agree. I think he sounds ridiculous. Keep your baby and all the very very best.

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    You will love your baby, and it will love you ALL your life ... Same cannot be said for boyfriend.
    It seems a very simple choice to me!

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