I have been seeing this guy on and off for about 8 months, he says he loves me, wants a future with me. Well, until 3 weeks ago when I found out i was pregnant.
He says he doesnt want the child becuae he is not ready. says that he would be ok in a year or so but not right now as his life is too complicated. he is 37 and i am 41.
I went through ivf by myself late last year as i know having a child is what i want. i have tubular issues and fibroids so the Drs told me the only way i would ever get pregnant was through ivf, so we werent using protection. Clearly the were wrong.
My boyfreind is telling me he wants me to abort and that he is not ready and doesnt think its fair to bring a child into the world that isnt wanted. he knows i want to keep it.
Im just so broken hearted. He told me he wanted children, and i guess he does... just not right now.
I feel like this is going to break us up cos he cant cope.
UPDATE: WOW..... I am overwhelmed with all of your responses... you are all so kind and supportive. xxxx
I told him today I was going to see this through to its natural conclusion.... I told him that there was no pressure... he can have as much or as little to do with me and the child as he wants.... so looks like the ball is in his court. Look who knows, im only 7 weeks I could still misscarry yet, although went to OB yesterday and good strong heartbeat heard... was amazing. :-). So fingers crossed.
THANKYOU SO MUCH to all those who posted....really caring and honest responses. xx