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    do you push yourself out of your comfort zone?

    Im a hermit by nature (on the asd spectrum) i dont drive, and everything makes me anxious. It takes me days to work up to have visitors etc.

    But my boys are suffering. They are on the spectrum too and ive got to do something for them.

    So... Despite my internal panic attacks... Ive just joined a weekly playgroup, and a fortnightly early intervention playgroup for ds#2, im allowing an early intervention teacher to come to my home fortnightly to work with me and my ds#2... Ive been making an effort to be in contact with my ds#1's school friend's mother. And let him have his friend here often...

    And im booking into driving lessons next fortnight so i can get my p's.


    I feel like i want to explode and lock myself in the cupboard tho... >_<

    Do you force yourself out of your comfort zone?

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    Massive congrats for taking the steps and doing these things!

    I am a major homebody. People annoy me. People make me anxious. Crowds make my head spin and my tummy churn. I have a panic and anxiety disorder. I like to keep to myself and am not the parent at school that starts random conversations..............meanwhile DS is a social butterfly.
    I signed up to do my Cert III and was dreading having to leave the house, drive 30mins on the freeway (in the rain aarrrghhhhh!!) and have to socialize with strangers...then drive back. My DP commented that about 4 weeks into my course, I had started to have less panic attacks and was generally more confident. Now that my course is over, I can feel myself starting to slip back into the old anxious me...and I dont like it. Im hoping a part time/casual job will help me get out of the house and out of my comfort zone.

    All the best with your plans. I hope you can push your comfort zone out a bit further

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    Wow well done. That is huge.

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    Good on you. I think your doing the best thing for your kids. I'm somewhat a hermit. I prefer to stay home instead of go out and socialise. I take the girls to play group every Friday but only because its at my SIL kindy and i feel i just dont fit in with the other mums and the playgroup coordinator i just get the feeling she doesnt like me. my dd1 has swimming every wed but that's basically all I do! I have 1 best friend that I see not as often as I should and 2 other good friends I see mayb every couple of months! I have wanted to meetup with other people from here and other forums to make friends but I'm so shy and just never organise it. Iv lived in my area my whole life and would love to move somewhere else but that can't happen right now.

    Wow didn't mean to go on that much. but yes. Good on you for taking yourself out of your comfort zone.

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    London, that is huge. I hope one day i can do something like that. Well done

    Jen - thank you

    Mum2mj - *hugs* you are currently doing 2 more things than ive ever done with my kids. Ive never been to a mothers group or a play group. Swimming lessons terrifies me... You are braver than you think.

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    Congrats for having the balls to overcome your fears because it's in the best interests of your kids. That's called being a great mum.

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    Congrats on pushing yourself!!

    To answer your question...yes I push myself out of my comfort zone. I grew up with a mother who had panic attacks and anxiety and it wasn't until I was an adult that I knew that she would feel anxious if she had to go out past our letterbox. She drove us to and from school, we went to the shops, friends houses etc. So every single day my mum forced herself to be out of her comfort zone to better her own life and to benefit our lives and I think that's pretty amazing and admirable really.

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    I'm very very impressed!
    Well done. Takes so much strength.
    I could definitely push myself further out of my comfort zone. I make so many excuses and I dread that my kids are suffering because of it.
    Wishing you lots of strength for your new journey.

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    Yes, i do.
    I go to a playgroup and when my girls were younger i went to story time at the library every week. Both were/are totally out of my comfort zone but i pushed myself for the sake of my children, who love socialising.
    I have also done one-off 'non comfort zone' outings here and there and try to make as much of an effort as i can. It is hard for me and often takes days of mental preparation, sometimes even then i chicken out and just can't do it. I do feel proud when i can push past that fear though

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    Thanks lovelies and thanks for sharing your experiences and stories.

    Its really taking a lot out of me just to prepare for this stuff. In all honesty it took me 6 hours to work up the courage to call and enquire about the playgroup... But i want better for my boys so im really left with no choice anymore.


 

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