Firstly, I apologise if there's already a thread on single mums, but theres so many pages to go through I just thought i'd start a new one!
I am currently 20 weeks pregnant, and single. I was casually seeing a man when I got pregnant, it was unplanned, but not unwanted, at least not on my bahalf. The father of the child has not denied paternity, and did at one point say he wanted to be a part of the childs life. Since that point I think I have seen him twice, and we have gone for over 6 weeks without any contact. I made some decisions about the pregnancy and started planning like I was doing this on my own, as he has not shown any interest in the pregnancy and has certainly provided no support. I texted him on Thursday to inform him of the results of the morphology scan. He then says to me, after weeks of no contact, that he is looking forward to naming the child because thats the fathers role, needless to say that upset me somewhat given he has not acted like a father at any point during the pregnancy!
I am struggling with what to do with this man. He is her father, and has every right to be involved in her life, just as she should know her dad, but how involved can he expect to be? Is it fair of me to say when he starts taking some financial responsibility he can start making decisions about her life? Im not sure legally where I stand on the whole money thing, can I ask him for help with medical bills?
Any advise would be appreciated. I have recently decided to stop contacting him, because it's no good for me as I get quite emotional, of course if he contacts me I respond. I would ideally like for him to realise what he needs to do on his own, I'm just not sure he will.