I don't think the ABA mean any offence by it, they are just using an accurate term. However I do agree it seems as though it can be used by individuals in a passive aggressive way at times. I have felt the desperate feeling of your baby screaming and not being able to BF. I was lucky to be able to BF in the end after months of hell but it has left me very cautious about what we as women say to other women. I have no idea what others back stories are or what they have gone through so I am always cautious.