Also wanted to ask, do you settle your baby exactly the same way for day naps as night sleeps?
Night sleep- bath, massage, swaddle. Then in the dark - boob till drowsy then in cot and patted to sleep. If she doesn't sleep or gets alert again-more boob till drowsy. My dd2 does not like being cuddled to sleep. My eldest did. Each bubba is different. I still cuddle my eldest to sleep as she wants it.
If you want to cuddle or rock to sleep at this age, there is no saying that the bub will become attached to this way of being put to sleep. Plenty of time to enjoy cuddling and rocking before they become too big to really be able to rock them before your back dies, and plenty of time for self settling techniques to be taught and routines to be changed. There are many great threads in here about self-settling and gentle ways to get bubs' sleeping soundly.
Also, most bubs will sleep better with a human in the room ~ all creatures seem to den with their bubs, and humans are no different. What other creature would put its smallest pack-member away from the pack? SIDS is greatly reduced, apparently, by sleeping in same room as bub.
Enjoy your litttle bubbies!
Last edited by BaronessM; 31-07-2012 at 00:57.
With dd started the night routine at 2 weeks of bath, bottle , bed.
She also slept in basinette in our room. Would feed her in our room with just tv light on and no sound.
Would just rock her for no more than 5mins until she was relaxed an then place her in the basinette awake.
Would stay with her and pat her until she slept , without talking or over stimulating.
Eventually she knew the routine and we could feed and place her straight in, she had a little grizzle and would doze off.
Then during the day when she was around 6weeks I started day sleeps in her cot to get her used to it and then by 2 months she was in there of a night too (DH is shift worker and was too noisy in our room when he had to get up for work)
My best advice is perseverance!! Just stick with a little ritual that works for u and bubs and then they are more calm because they know what to expect!
My baby never had problems falling asleep but he wakes up very easily and towards the end of the day he is exhausted from lack of good sleep. Regardless of consistent routine he may take a long time to settle at night time.
Of course that having a routine and sticking to it helps. It sounds like you did a great job, 25andhopeful!
However I just wanted to put out there for mums struggling like myself that if routine isn't enough for your baby it isn't because you are a bad mum and aren't doing your best for the baby. Some babies have more difficulty sleeping.
I have a two week old and currently cuddles/rocking and talking/singing until he dozes off. Also in the same boat though as wondering how this is going to go long term (as soon as my voice stops he will open his eyes if he isn't in a deep enough sleep).
I try do bath at 6, bottle and be by 7 but sometimes bed doesn't happen until 9 or maybe 10 or she will go down at 630-7 and wake at 8 thinking its play time. No baby. It's sleep time!!! She likes to be snuggled and patting I'd be standing there forever until she's asleep. Rocking her at night is the quietest as I have my partner to think about too with her being in our room. I guess one day it will just happen, in the next few weeks I will start putting her for daytime sleeps in her room in the cot but also nice ATM with her only being 4 weeks that she likes the cuddles.
Were the same...hannah wont sleep unless shes rocked/patted to sleep in our arms. When shes in a deep sleep we can put her in the bassinett, but by then its often an hour into her sleep and she'll wake up again in 1-2hrs for another feed grrr! Its frustrating but its what we have to do
Exactly Pilbara, have you sorted the screaming situation out? Does she have colic too? It's a hard one.
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