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    I dont have any advice but just wanted to say im so sorry for your loss *hugs*

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    I had a spontaneous miscarriage at 9 weeks 3 days with my first baby, at the time i was adamant we were never doing that again, i was physically very ill as a result of the blood loss and emotionally felt like i could not handle that again.

    I had seen out 'dotty' 3 times and had ana ultrasound disk with Zi's heart beat etc and i felt like i would never want another baby again.

    I gave myself time and a month later (period returned perfectly) i decided i was ready to try again, 2 months later i got my positive and while excited was terrified.

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    Thanks ladies, I've got the best DH and family in the world but sometimes you just want to be alone and getting to vent/write my thoughts down on bubhub really helps, thanks again for your kind thoughts, I've never been through a loss before and my emotions are just all over the place xxx

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    So sad to read this look after yourself x

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    I'm so sorry, it is heartbreaking having a m/c.
    For me i always feel like i never want to be pregnant again after a m/c, then that passes and changes to a desperate need to be pregnant again. It is a roller coaster of emotions.
    Be kind to yourself

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    ((hugs))

    It took around three years after my missed miscarriage to be ready for another go. And I was convinced it wouldn't stick when I found out I was pregnant. I was utterly paranoid and even got a Doppler to obsessively check heartbeat while I wasn't showing and couldn't feel kicks.

    Take time to heal and be gentle on yourself.

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    I'm so sorry for your loss . I think that everything you're feeling at the moment is completely normal, it's devastating to lose a baby and always a sad shock.

    I've had two miscarriages since November, the last less than two weeks ago and for me, I am trying again straight away because if I don't I'm scared that I'll be paralysed by the fear of it happening again forever.

    I know that not everyone is the same though and some people find they need to wait longer until they are ready to try again.

    Whatever you decide, give yourself time to grieve and to heal and we're always here for support. It's so hard sometimes to walk around with the outside world thinking everything is fine when you are sobbing on the inside.

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    I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. In my experience, DH and I both needed time to grieve. We had two weeks of tests before D&C where we knew things weren't going to work out and spent that time talking and spending time together and crying a lot. After D&C we weren't sure if we wanted to try again straight away, but the more we thought about it, the more we knew we needed to.

    I suggest you take all the time you need - you will know when you're ready ... if you get ready again.

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    Im so sorry for your loss sweetheart *super hugs*

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    I was in ignorant bliss before my m/cs . I am definitely more paranoid, but also a hell of a lot more informed. I feel that I can walk into an OBs and advocate appropriately and be prepared to walk away from them if I'm not happ


 

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