I'm sorry you are going through this. I know exactly how you feel.
My DD was exactly the same. I actually made a thread when she was about 10 months asking why she hated me. She is just 2 now an so much better!
She would do nothing but scream at me and have nothing but smiles and open arms for DP when he was on his days off. (he works away too)
All I can say is ask for as much help as you can. I didn't have anyone as we moved from Sydney to Perth when DD was 3 months.
You can PM me anytime if you want to vent. I will write more later about how I dealt with it. Satan has risen.