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    Quote Originally Posted by Socrates79 View Post
    Kylie you rock!

    Caz, you obviously failed to understand my point. We are not on the same page.

    Nah, I understand your point, I just agree with the others that are saying a good deal of women think this way! I don't really think there IS a typical woman. We're all different.

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    Thanks guys.

    Yeah I just find that the older I get - I'm mid-thirties now - the more intolerant I am when I witness women putting other women down, bragging about six figure salaries, how they want to outspend at Tupperware parties, etc, etc.

    I just don't want to associate with it, and it's why I have pretty much decided to keep to myself and a select few women.

    I just want to get in touch with other women who don't go for this superficial - I think it is superficial - kind of stuff. Why can't women just be encouraging without the suspicion and compulsion to try and outdo and compete??

    I know you guys probably agree with this.

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    Yep! I wouldn't want to associate with those type of women either.

    Not that there's anything wrong with having a six figure salary and being able to go to tupperware parties and drink fancy wine and go on expensive holidays etc... but it's just not my thing.

    I have lots of women from my mummies group who are very encouraging without trying to outdo and compete with eachother! The group started out much larger, and there were a bunch of women who WERE like this... but we just branched off and started our own likeminded group elsewhere

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    Quote Originally Posted by Socrates79 View Post
    Thanks guys.

    Yeah I just find that the older I get - I'm mid-thirties now - the more intolerant I am when I witness women putting other women down, bragging about six figure salaries, how they want to outspend at Tupperware parties, etc, etc.

    I just don't want to associate with it, and it's why I have pretty much decided to keep to myself and a select few women.

    I just want to get in touch with other women who don't go for this superficial - I think it is superficial - kind of stuff. Why can't women just be encouraging without the suspicion and compulsion to try and outdo and compete??

    I know you guys probably agree with this.

    but you have just put a heap of women down, been competitive and tried to "outdo" people at being "less like an average woman".

    The problem with your post... is that you are being exactly like the women you don't like but using a different medium to critisize them with. Rather than saying what you like about the way you are...you called others names.

    This is where fights happen lol

    I really don't think there is an "average woman"...we are all weird and wonderful as well as being typical of others in some ways!

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    Quote Originally Posted by CazHazKidz View Post
    Yep! I wouldn't want to associate with those type of women either.

    Not that there's anything wrong with having a six figure salary and being able to go to tupperware parties and drink fancy wine and go on expensive holidays etc... but it's just not my thing.

    I have lots of women from my mummies group who are very encouraging without trying to outdo and compete with eachother! The group started out much larger, and there were a bunch of women who WERE like this... but we just branched off and started our own likeminded group elsewhere
    I agree! But there is no way I'd ever divulge information about my salary and all that to people I barely know. I find that often I'll just listen to other people and then share about myself if I'm asked. I'm not going to just assume I guess, that people want to know about me.

    I love meeting others who are deep thinkers who see beyond the superficial. At the end of the day, we're all human underneath the layers we choose to clothe ourselves in, both literally and metaphorically.

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    Quote Originally Posted by smileygirl View Post
    but you have just put a heap of women down, been competitive and tried to "outdo" people at being "less like an average woman".

    The problem with your post... is that you are being exactly like the women you don't like but using a different medium to critisize them with. Rather than saying what you like about the way you are...you called others names.

    This is where fights happen lol

    I really don't think there is an "average woman"...we are all weird and wonderful as well as being typical of others in some ways!
    Sure. At the end of the day, my experience all boils down purely to my perception.

    For me, if I witness this sort of thing happening (i.e. a woman putting another one down for whatever reason), I get really uncomfortable and just don't want to associate with it at all.

    It's not me being horrible to them. I just can't do it. It drags me right down. I just want to do what I can to be positive and encouraging.

    I'm not attempting to judge. I'm recognising something based on an observation and choosing to associate with that or not. I don't want to be involved in negativity.

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    Quote Originally Posted by smileygirl View Post
    but you have just put a heap of women down, been competitive and tried to "outdo" people at being "less like an average woman".

    The problem with your post... is that you are being exactly like the women you don't like but using a different medium to critisize them with. Rather than saying what you like about the way you are...you called others names.
    I'm not calling them names. I am just silently observing behaviour that I don't want to encourage or be a part of. I'm not calling people names. I am merely recognising behaviour that I don't want to engage in, and then moving out of that situation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Socrates79 View Post
    Sure. At the end of the day, my experience all boils down purely to my perception.

    For me, if I witness this sort of thing happening (i.e. a woman putting another one down for whatever reason), I get really uncomfortable and just don't want to associate with it at all.

    It's not me being horrible to them. I just can't do it. It drags me right down. I just want to do what I can to be positive and encouraging.

    I'm not attempting to judge. I'm recognising something based on an observation and choosing to associate with that or not. I don't want to be involved in negativity.
    But then doesn't it go both ways?
    So can't I talk about a tupperware party just in case you are around and deem me superficial?? It's not really fair that your perceptions is deemed the "right" one?
    I think it's actually a little bit hypocritical of you to state that you get uncomfortable at woman putting other woman down... yet you have clearly stated that anything YOU deem as superficial is negative and you don;t want to be around it.
    I personally wouldn't want to be around you in case you decided that I was superficial because I was excited about the brand new awesome car we bought a few months ago. Sounds like you are very judgemental to anything that falls outside you "non-superficial" radar

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    Quote Originally Posted by faroutbrusselsprout View Post
    But then doesn't it go both ways?
    So can't I talk about a tupperware party just in case you are around and deem me superficial?? It's not really fair that your perceptions is deemed the "right" one?
    I think it's actually a little bit hypocritical of you to state that you get uncomfortable at woman putting other woman down... yet you have clearly stated that anything YOU deem as superficial is negative and you don;t want to be around it.
    I personally wouldn't want to be around you in case you decided that I was superficial because I was excited about the brand new awesome car we bought a few months ago. Sounds like you are very judgemental to anything that falls outside you "non-superficial" radar
    It's not what I'm saying but I'm not going to say anymore on here. It's just going to turn into a blood bath online and I'm not going to be a part of it.

    People either hate me or they like me. And that's totally fine.

    Now, how do I delete my account on here?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Socrates79 View Post
    It's not what I'm saying but I'm not going to say anymore on here. It's just going to turn into a blood bath online and I'm not going to be a part of it.

    People either hate me or they like me. And that's totally fine.

    Now, how do I delete my account on here?
    Why would it turn into a blood bath?
    I'm generally curious to try and grasp your point as I am obviously misinterpreting it?


 

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