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    Quote Originally Posted by maybenumber3 View Post
    Imho cheating is cheating whether mental, emotional or physical.
    I couldn't agree more, a relationship is about more than just the physical side. if you feel the need to be emotionally or mentally involved with someone else maybe it's time to look at the foundations of your own relationship.

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    What is medically wrong with a person that they can't touch?

    Anyway if they are that unhappy to a stage where they have to make online relationships with other people to make themselves feel wanted or needed or sexy or whatever they are doing then It's time to pack your bags and leave.

    I have read those stories online both from men and women and honestly I don't get it. Why spend your best years unhappy? I would go mad in a relationship like that. If you are happy then that's great but most of these people are miserable and spend their days thinking about getting laid.

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    Janesmum..

    I think from the story here, the lack of touch is due to the man being quite depressed.

    I think these women feel bad about leaving their husband when he has such a bad injury...who will look after him?

    its quite complex..

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ishtyban View Post
    Janesmum..

    I think from the story here, the lack of touch is due to the man being quite depressed.

    I think these women feel bad about leaving their husband when he has such a bad injury...who will look after him?

    its quite complex..
    But you cant swap one life for another. Basically they are saying I'm going to give up my happiness forever for someone else. That's not right.

    This man sounds like he might get off on the control of it, depriving her gives him a sense of power.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ishtyban View Post
    no these ones have discussed but the man says..no ..no to cheating..no to touch..
    he could get help to bring touch back..but does not want too.
    the woman should just abstain.
    In that case I think maybe the marriage might need to end. As much as I feel for the man who sounds quite depressed, it's also not fair on the woman to have to live like that. Relationships take work from both sides and it sounds like he isn't trying from his end, if he COULD bring touch back but isn't for whatever reason.

    I don't think going behind his back is right though, total transparency is more my style.

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    S3x doesn't make a marriage, but without either a physical or emotional connection (which, if he will not even acknowledge that she has needs and feelings, it sounds like may have been lost) at some point it stops being a marriage and becomes a co-habitation. What a terrible situation to find yourself in, I feel for them both really.

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    I feel for them, although what is wrong with a vibrator? I don't quite get the cyber thing, surely they still communicate by word?

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    Hmm when I found out that my partner was flirting with random girls (never met, different country) just for the attention I was hurt. It was when we had just started dating, he had continued flirting with girls he had spoken to online before we met. It hurt alot and I told him that I still classed that as cheating and he had to stop or end relationship.

    So I'd say yes it's wrong and still cheating, but i can see it would be horrible to be in a relationship where partner could not perform/be physical at all due to injuries or whatever. I could understand the frustration. But seeking elsewhere is still cheating I think.

    Why not just read a good erotic book or watch a porno, get herself a few toys and go to town? Getting that sexual satisfaction without the second person.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ahpez View Post
    Hmm when I found out that my partner was flirting with random girls (never met, different country) just for the attention I was hurt. It was when we had just started dating, he had continued flirting with girls he had spoken to online before we met. It hurt alot and I told him that I still classed that as cheating and he had to stop or end relationship.

    So I'd say yes it's wrong and still cheating, but i can see it would be horrible to be in a relationship where partner could not perform/be physical at all due to injuries or whatever. I could understand the frustration. But seeking elsewhere is still cheating I think.

    Why not just read a good erotic book or watch a porno, get herself a few toys and go to town? Getting that sexual satisfaction without the second person.
    But could you still physically have s*x?

    I think there's a difference between what you've described here hun and what the OP is talking about.

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    I still think it's cheating regardless, but thats just my opinion.


 

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