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    Default *spinoff* At what age should you be held accountable for your actions?

    The thread about the young man that killed another by hitting him has got me thinking. What age should a person be held accountable for their actions? What about these scenarios?

    a) murder
    b) getting someone pg or being pg yourself (that doesn't necessarily mean keeping the baby but being grown up and dealing with the situation or paying CS)
    c) stealing

    Or do you feel there is a set age no matter the situation?

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    I stole a packet of biscuits when I was 4. My mother made me take them back and apologise and I have never stolen again, ever. I walked out of Big W yesterday and got to the carpark and realised that I had forgotten to pay for a $5 pair of kids track pants- I walked all the way back up and paid.

    Anything over 10 and you know right from wrong. In some circumstances -like an abusive home I can see how they wouldn't, but come 14ish - then you start to function in society more and not hang off the coat tails of your parents so much, so you do start gaining influences from other people and society.

    So I say 14-15 at the latest.

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    Around 14 is my feeling too. Of course some kids are mature and I'd say 12 others aren't so much and maybe a little older. It's hard to put a number on it. Different circumstances mean different outcomes. But I do feel by 18 you should be held responsible.

    At just turned 17 I was at uni, had moved in with my now husband and was living 200km away from any family. I def knew right from wrong and was an adult in every respect. I know that's not everything though I guess.

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    I moved overseas at 19, I knew well enough what I was doing it. Sure I didn't have the life experience I have now, but I knew not to kill people. In fact, every 19 year old I have ever known knew not to kill people, and some of them had awful upbringings.

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    I think 13/14. You do alot of maturing between 10 and 13.

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    I don't believe you can put a number on it. Everyone matures differently and the difference in maturity between two people of the same age can be quite substantial.

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    held accountable...10 ish...

    treated as an adult would be treated...25 ish

    MY DS is 8, he is held accountable for his actions...but he makes mistakes and I respect that he is only 8 and that will happen. He does not always deal with his emotions well and when he gets excited he can totally lose focus.

    WHen he is 18, i will expect more of him...but will understand that he will more than likely do stupid things from time to time. I will expect him to be able to live out of home if needed for uni, be mainly responsible with his money, not party too much on uni nights. I would expect that he could take care of himself and travel overseas etc etc

    When he is 28...i will expect these stupid things to have ceased and for him to have grown up fully. Be able to make mature and well thought out decisions that take into consideration the full impact on himself and others.

    If he got someone pregnant when he was very young...he would take responsibility (or i would kill him lol), but as his parents..i would more than likely pay the child support (if they were not together) so he could stay at school and long term, provide a better future. I would want the child to be supported and not to have a zero child support because his income would more than likely be zero or very low until he finished uni.

    If he was caught stealing...first time, I would forgive it (i made him do the march of shame back to a shop keeper when he stole a toy when he was 4...never stolen since)....but repeat offence...consequences would escalate.

    Murder...depends on the how and the why. If it was manslaughter/deliberate/pre meditated/accidental etc etc. I would want him treated as his age though...i would look for treatments and assume (that as I know he has had a good childhood) that there was something going on. I would support him...as he is mine.

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    I don't think there is an age really. Regarding that other thread, I would hold my 9 year old accountable for her actions if she hit someone and really hurt them, she knows it is wrong and that it is dangerous, as I'm sure most people do. However I don't believe a 9 yr old has the maturity or foresight to know the long term consequences and shouldn't be punished the same as an adult. I wouldn't ever feel that she wasn't accountable though. Does that make sense!?

    Having said that, even for adults, as much as I believe we are all responsible for our actions (not including severe intellectual disability etc where people really don't understand these things) I think there are always a million factors at play so I'm slow to make judgments. Eg a 30 yr old man who holds up a servo and shoots the attendant is responsible for his actions, but there may be other contributing factors like under the influence of drugs, lived a violent childhood, mental health issues etc that make him behave in a way that he wouldn't in the absence of these factors. It doesn't excuse his behaviour but maybe explains it a bit and I guess means that we should be a bit more lenient and try to help and support him to change and rehabilitate rather than just punish iykwim?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Annabella View Post
    H I think there are always a million factors at play so I'm slow to make judgments. Eg a 30 yr old man who holds up a servo and shoots the attendant is responsible for his actions, but there may be other contributing factors like under the influence of drugs, lived a violent childhood, mental health issues etc that make him behave in a way that he wouldn't in the absence of these factors. It doesn't excuse his behaviour but maybe explains it a bit and I guess means that we should be a bit more lenient and try to help and support him to change and rehabilitate rather than just punish iykwim?
    Yeah I agree with this

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