Which did you prefer? Why?
I have three years eight months between DS1 and DS2 and had been planning three years between the next kids (we want three or four kids).
There are lots of things I like about the bigger gaps. I love that I get more time to focus on the toddler time, my body gets more time to recover and that the kids are at different stages so there's less jealousy.
But I'm questioning all that at the moment with an eight month old and a four year old who want such vastly different things. I'm wondering if it will be harder in the long run having say, a 10 year old, six year old, three year old and newborn? Will I miss out on a lot of my older kids because I always have a baby strapped to me? Am I better off to have the others closer in age so we can do more things together later on?
I'll add that we'll be homeschooling so there won't be a situation where the older ones are at school so I can hang out with the baby.
Any advice would be awesome. I'm confused!