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    I won't guarantee that I won't try some version of CC later on down the track if sleep is a massive issue and other things don't work (and DD is much older), but I got pressured to let DD cry when she was only about 6 weeks! She was occasionally so hard to settle she would stay awake all night and all the next day . Fortunately I stuck to my guns and discovered that she went this batty after I had dairy. Cut that out and I now have an angel, now at 8 weeks, only wakes once for a feed at 5:00am. If I'd caved in to pressure maybe she would have stopped crying with CC, but would have continued to suffer! Try other things first and trust yourself

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    Default Everyone wants me to do Controlled Crying!

    Quote Originally Posted by ciaomamma View Post
    ... Plus I think babies cry for a reason, could be anything from being scared of something in the room to wanting to be held, think if you couldn't communicate but really wanted something really bad would you not cry and get frustrated and cry some more?
    I agree! I think babies DO cry for a reason! I'm just trying to figure out what that reason is!

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    Quote Originally Posted by LJMsMum View Post
    Hi
    I'm at my wits end and 14 month old DD won't sleep! :-(

    Everyone around me (my husband, sister, mother-in-law, friends and even pediatrician) suggest I do Controlled Crying but I just CAN'T do it!!!

    Has anyone else experienced this where they're out numbered and pressured to do CC?

    Any suggestions or advice (or success stories) would be greatly appreciated!

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    Hrmm, if i were you i'd start lying to them all and saying to them "dd seems to have turned a corner, she's a wonderful little sleeper!".... just to get them off you back. Then you can focus on what YOU want out of this.
    Every baby is different and CC wont work for everyone. It is espacially hard for some parents to do.
    Try and rule out why she is not sleeping/settling.
    Is she breast/bottle feeding ok? need less or more? A type of solid food upsetting her?
    Is she warm enough?
    Scared of the dark?
    Is there a daily routine you follow that is somewhat predictive for her? I found this key in getting my non-sleeper to settle to sleep alot easier.
    Does she have day sleeps? remembering sleep promotes sleep untill roughly 2 yrs of age for some bubs.
    At 14 mths id guarantee she is crying for a reason and i think it will be a process of elimination.

    I did use CC but my way and AFTER i rulled out feeding isses and reflux, eczema and AFTER i knew i wanted her into a sleep routine and to be able to self settle. YOU need to be ready. I tweaked with the idea and really listened to her cries. I also tuned into my gut instinct and started to believe in myself that i know what i'm doing.
    I had the support of my husband, because he knew it was hard for me to hear her "whimper" he would distract me for a couple minutes before i went into her. Eventually, i stopped having to pick her up every time because her cries where not as intense. Instead i would "shhhhh" and say "im here, it's ok" at the doorway, then walk out again. DH would keep me from going in straight away at the first noise. I realised i needed to LET her self settle. Probably within 2-3 days she was doing 1 hour blocks of solid sleep during day. And at night i would hear her wake up but lay there and listen to her before i got up.
    Believe in yourself, only you know what is right for your baby. Use your instincts they are 99% right in most cases.
    A sleep book is just a guide IMO.
    Goodluck, im sure you will get threre.

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    Quote Originally Posted by decemberbubba View Post
    Ours is a pretty long stroy, but I'll try to stick to the short version!!

    DS started waking 1-2 hourly overnight at 4 months and it lasted for a solid 5 months until I had to do something about it for everyones sanity. Luckily DH and my immediate family never pressured to CC, although I was told by plenty of others it was the only way to make a baby sleep.

    I read Elizabeth Pantley's 'No-Cry Sleep Solutions' and it was pretty helpful with some tips on helping bub to sleep better. It's not a rigid 'program', which I knew DS would never adhere to. Our issue was that DS needed to feed to re-settle at every wake up. I had to slowly and gently wean him from feeding to rocking/ cuddling to settling in cot. There was some crying, because he was pretty unhappy about no boobie at the start, but I was always with him and it didn't last long. There was a big improvement from about 12 months (it goes up and down still a little bit), and now at 18 months he can mostly settle himself if he wakes during the night.

    There is light at the end of the tunnel - you don't have to CC or CIO. Hang in there

    Wow I have exactly THIS problem! I came on to see if I could find any solutions. I'm lost as to what to do about it.
    So did you feed once a night still or just rock him at every wake up? Patting doesnt seem to work for my ds, so we rock to sleep. My DH is a log at night time 99% of the time so I end up sleeping with him on me as he wakes every hour to two hours to feed to resettle and then if I try to put him down he wakes up and crys then needs to feed again.
    I've been considering starting to rock him but Im so tired and was confused as to what to do.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Luvmydogs View Post
    Wow I have exactly THIS problem! I came on to see if I could find any solutions. I'm lost as to what to do about it.
    So did you feed once a night still or just rock him at every wake up? Patting doesnt seem to work for my ds, so we rock to sleep. My DH is a log at night time 99% of the time so I end up sleeping with him on me as he wakes every hour to two hours to feed to resettle and then if I try to put him down he wakes up and crys then needs to feed again.
    I've been considering starting to rock him but Im so tired and was confused as to what to do.
    I tried lots and lots of different things, but this is what ended up working for us (and I had to come to a mindset where I was prepared to get even less sleep and try to stick one method out):

    At every wake up I would time DS's feeds, starting with 1 min (would just count in my head). He was literally only comfort sucking which was why I started with such a short time, if your LO is actually having a feed you might want to give it a bit longer.

    Once the time was up I would take DS off the boob. He would start crying (annoyed crying not hysterical), but I'd just rock/ bounce on fitball with him until he was asleep, then put him back in his cot.

    Every couple of days I would reduce the time, so each wake up would feed for 45 then 30 seconds etc and finish by rocking (beind held) to sleep. After a couple of weeks I stopped feeding and would just pick up and rock, by then he was pretty used to being rocked but he was a bit upset at no boobie. After a few days of just rocking I started putting him down slightly awake and patting off to sleep. Then transitioned to just patting in cot at each wake up.

    There were some times where he would just go into hysterics, so I would resort back to feeding and just get him back to sleep and try again next time. I was still patting back to sleep many times a night, so cutting out the feeds didn't stop him waking, but eventually he was able to put himself back to sleep at night when he woke.


    DS was about 9 months when I did this. I didn't want to night wean until 12 months, but he was a big boy and still feeding frequently during the day, and because he was only comfort sucking I was pretty sure he didn't actually need a feed.

    I hope that helps a bit. It can be hard finding a method that works for you and your bub.

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    How are things going OP?

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    When DS was 3 months old and waking up after a nap, DH kept telling me to let him 'cry it out, he's just sooking'. That was because his mother told him that's what he should do.
    I just ignored him AND MIL even though she meant well. It used to cheese me that DH couldn't understand that a 3 month old cries for a reason because that's ALL they can do. But we got through it by just ignoring bad advice and doing whatever worked for us .

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    Default Everyone wants me to do Controlled Crying!

    Quote Originally Posted by Luvmydogs View Post
    Wow I have exactly THIS problem! I came on to see if I could find any solutions. I'm lost as to what to do about it.
    So did you feed once a night still or just rock him at every wake up? Patting doesnt seem to work for my ds, so we rock to sleep. My DH is a log at night time 99% of the time so I end up sleeping with him on me as he wakes every hour to two hours to feed to resettle and then if I try to put him down he wakes up and crys then needs to feed again.
    I've been considering starting to rock him but Im so tired and was confused as to what to do.
    How old is your baby?
    I wrap DD then cuddle her to sleep then when I put her down she doesn't wake up because she's all wrapped I also hold her head with my hand like if she was on my harm right side down and put her in her cot I'll hold the right side for a few seconds, she'll wriggle a little but not wake up.
    One to two hours feeds is a lot! I'd express and wake DH up!

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    Default Everyone wants me to do Controlled Crying!

    Quote Originally Posted by LJMsMum View Post
    Hi
    I'm at my wits end and 14 month old DD won't sleep! :-(

    Everyone around me (my husband, sister, mother-in-law, friends and even pediatrician) suggest I do Controlled Crying but I just CAN'T do it!!!

    Has anyone else experienced this where they're out numbered and pressured to do CC?

    Any suggestions or advice (or success stories) would be greatly appreciated!

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    I guess it's up to what you feel comfortable with doing with your baby. I was a little out of my comfort zone when my DH suggested CC at 6 months but it only took about a week of me freaking out while my DH comforted me to get DD into her sleeping pattern. From then on she slept every night from 7pm until 5am.

    Again if it doesn't work for you or if you feel like it isn't right it might not be a good fit for you! Hopefully you find something to ease your lack of sleep!!

    Good luck!!! Xxx

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    Default Re: Everyone wants me to do Controlled Crying!

    Where do you live? I just went this week to the sleep clinic in brisbane and it was a big help! My ds was co sleeping and breastfeeding all night at 16 months but we have another baby coming in a few months so its not possible to continue. Basically what we did was because he is in a bed but is still young and doesn't understand to stay in his bed I did a lot of hands on settling but he had to fall asleep in his bed without me touching him too much. There was a lot of crying the first 2 nights but I was there the whole time just with my hand resting on his chest and only patting when he got really upset (although in the end he preferred me not touching at all). It was so hard at first but all of a sudden he seem to get it and now goes to sleep with me just sitting beside his bed in a few minutes with little to no crying. Its early days and he's now sick so he's still not sleeping through but hopefully with persistence he will get there.

    I gave into pressure to try controlled crying and now he's terrified of the cot..hence the reason we co slept and now decided to just get him into a bed.

    Good luck!


 

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