I am just wondering how many of you tell people that you have had miscarriages? I don't know if there is some kind of 'rule' where it is a taboo subject....
I have had two miscarriages. The first miscarriage everyone knew about, as I was writing an IVF journal on facebook for my friends to follow. When I miscarried, after a few weeks I posted about it and I also got a tattoo which I posted a picture of. Everyone was extremely supportive.
My second miscarriage, I had not been telling anyone that we were cycling or going through IVF. So only my best friend and family knows that I had another miscarriage.
I go to get my tattoo for this baby tomorrow (a daffodil, birth flower of march when bub would have been born). It will connect up with the other tattoo (a rose bud, birth flower of june).
This might sound silly but I feel as though if I dont share that there was another life lost then I am playing favourites with the first baby, I would like to share my tattoo with a poem on facebook....if that makes sense
These tattoos are a way of saying goodbye but I will always remember you and have you with me. It leaves a sense of closure for me...
I am kind of worried how some people may react though. Like, "why is she telling everyone she had a miscarriage on facebook"
I dont want to offend anyone and I dont know if miscarriage is some kind of taboo subject.
Personally I feel that when someone in our lives (e.g. a mother/father/grandparent etc.) passes away, then it is known and talked about and they are grieved for. We dont keep it a secret if our mum or dad has died, so why should we do the same for an unborn child???
I dont know. Should I just keep it to myself?
All oppions welcome xoxo