Dd's BF hasnt been supportive in the last 6 years of DDs life. We divorced when DD was 2.5yrs old. So for 3.5yrs (and before that really!!) ive been looking after DD on my own. DD has multiple health and development issues, including autism.
DD is in special ed prep, and see's BF 1/2 of each school holidays. We live 8hr apart, and when DD went to visit BF this school holidays, he noticed she's not up to the level that his prep age step son is.
BF called me tonight (1st time since he's had DD over two weeks ago) and said that he's been looking into the school his SS goes to and suggested DD goes to live with him to attend that school.
Ummm.... DD has so much support here with therapists, her ECDP, me doing sooo much extra academic intervention at home.
There is no way I will let that happen, he can't just uphaul her from the school she knows, on a 50/50 chance she might do a bit better at another school.
DD has never been at age appropriate developmental level, and seriously, i never expect her to be exactly like other kids her age. Her IQ was just tested and she scored 74 (average is 100, special school elegibility is 70).
Am i being unreasonable here? Or am i right in thinking that she needs to stay with me? There are way less services out when BF lives. Thats the reason we moved her 18months ago!!
We have consent orders that state DD lives with me in this town, so unless he takes this issue to court, I will not send her to live with him.