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    Also - if you don't have any stretch marks at the end of the pregnancy, you might get some a few weeks after bub is born .

    - I had no idea how much I would love this little person. It was so overwhelming!

    To prepare your partner, are you planning on attending pre-natal classes? DH is a nurse so knew what to expect but we did notice that a lot of Dads at the class were suprised at a lot of the info (eg, having to deliver the placenta after the baby), so I think the classes are a good idea. We also bought the book 'Being Dad' which is fantastic. They also do a DVD.

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    I cannot reccomend a calm birth class highly enough! My DH still says that he's really thankful we went, because it meant he knew what to do!

    If you have hip/back pain, see a physio, it helped me so much with my hip pain

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    - BF is not as easy as I Thought it would be but I'm sooooo glad I didn't give up!

    - if you have trouble bf don't be afraid to use a shield/pump etc if you need to and f&@k everyone else if they make you feel like crap for doing so

    - if you decide not to bf or if it doesn't work out for you there is nothing wrong with formula feeding.. As long as bub is being fed its no ones business how you are doing it

    - that you can start to lose hair after having bub.. Seriously I find my hair EVERYWHERE and when I wash it I'm convinced I'll be bald in no time

    - that your baby girl will have blood in her nappy at some stage in the first few days

    - always have at least 2 spare outfits for bub and a spare shirt for you in the car/baby bag if you have a spewer

    - you may have to throw your birth plan out the window.. Go with it and do what you are most comfortable with at the time!

    - your boobs will get more action in the first 48 hours by 5 different people then they ever have in your life

    - Post preg bleeding.. I thought it would never end.. Have a stock pile of pads handy do you don't run out.

    - go with your instincts..if you think bub is hungry then feed her if you think she wants a dummy give it to her.. There's nothing wrong with it

    - having to hold her constantly for the first few weeks isn't the worst thing in the world.. Cherish every moment of it!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by juf84 View Post
    Also - if you don't have any stretch marks at the end of the pregnancy, you might get some a few weeks after bub is born .

    - I had no idea how much I would love this little person. It was so overwhelming!

    To prepare your partner, are you planning on attending pre-natal classes? DH is a nurse so knew what to expect but we did notice that a lot of Dads at the class were suprised at a lot of the info (eg, having to deliver the placenta after the baby), so I think the classes are a good idea. We also bought the book 'Being Dad' which is fantastic. They also do a DVD.
    I'm only 20 weeks this Saturday so haven't started pre-natal classes, but I definitely think it is something we will do. I was thinking of getting him a book, but thought he might take offence...

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    Quote Originally Posted by anabanana12 View Post
    Oh god! All of your answer, whilst enlightening, are absolutely terrifying!

    My partner, despite having a huge heart deep down, is a complete jokester with no filter from brain to mouth and I know will be pulling faces at me, hiding his eyes and holding back laughter and or screams during childbirth. Even though I know he won't mean to upset me I'm worried he won't be ready for all of the above should it happen and will make me feel terrible...

    SO on a slightly unrelated topic: How do I prepare my partner for dealing with the things you don't know or wouldn't expect about childbirth and the first few days/weeks after?
    I highly recommend antenatal classes! DP and I went and they were awesome!!!

    So much you guys will just figure out as you go.. As my DP said when he got asked by a workmate how he was going being a first time dad and his reply was 'good we are making it up as we go' 😜

    There's is also a book for dads that I've seen some other ladies recommend but I can't recall the name so hopefully someone else can help out with it?!?

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    I highly recommend the DVD "The Happiest Baby on the Block". We watched it while i was pregnant and It helped my DH learn all the settling techniques. So in the early weeks after I fed DD through the night, DH would settle her back to sleep so I could also rest. The DVD gave him so much confidence.

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    For your partner, I'd definitely recommend Hypnobirthing or Calm Birth (very similar principles). My husband was very skeptical of hypno-anything but it's very focused on the birth partner (whether this is your partner, mum, friend, doula) and after doing the course, my hubby was a fantastic birth partner.

    As for things you might not know:

    Just like every pregnancy is different, every birth is different. Be prepared for special circumstances that might arise (e.g. why you might need to be induced and the risks/benefits of this etc), but surround yourself with positive birth stories. Going into labour with fear is not helpful and can make progress difficult.

    You might get pre-labour contractions for days/weeks before the real event. Breathe and relax through them, acknowledge that this may or may not be the real deal, get up and walk around and see what happens. I had a whole week of pre-labour contractions!

    Only a small percentage of babes are born on their due date. Trust that your bub will come when he/she is ready.

    It is unlikely that your waters will break in a dramatic fashion Hollywood-style. Mine didn't break until well into labour, and I actually wasn't sure if it was my waters or if I'd weed myself (happened during a contraction). To be safe, carry a maternity pad in your handbag

    Baby blues are real. I was very emo and teary for the first week.

    Trust your instincts. You'll know what to do, and you'll know when you don't know what to do. Seek advice when you need to, but trust yourself if your instincts tell you not to follow the advice!!

    Babies don't read baby books, so don't expect to have a baby who follows the routines in books!

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    Quote Originally Posted by summastarlet View Post
    Let me think...

    -that breast feeding isn't as easy as they make it out to be in movies..takes a lot of time and effort to get baby to latch on, especially in the early days

    -how painful your boobs get in the first few days after birth while waiting for your milk to come in...omg mine were like rocks!!!

    -how weird and jelly like your tummy feels after bub is born (and for me this was after a c-section..assuming it's the same for people who have a natural birth)

    -dignity is out the window once you have a child...from nurses checking and changing my bloody pads, having a nurse give me a sponge bath (I wasn't allowed out of bed until day 3 due to a PPH and needing several blood transfusions) and midwives grabbing my boobs and nipples to help get DS to latch on..I didn't care in the end but I was trying to cling to my last shred of dignity at first.

    -that it really hurts getting up for the first time after a c-section. I think this may have been because I had to stay in bed longer than normal though. But for me this was absolute agony, and I cried.
    Getting up that first time is excruciating!! My cs I was on a pca and got up in a lot of pain but got up and walked. My 2nd cs was worse being on oral morphine and OxyContin i got up less so didn't get up and walk like I did with dd1, dd2 is 3 weeks old now and I'm still in some pain I'm still in trackies and pj pants most days. I swore and cried and screamed the first two days getting up after dd2 and thought I was tearing my stitches and I still sometimes feel like that getting out of bed at home or off the lounge.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Boobycino View Post
    Can I be picky - I dont think women have to lose their dignity birthing. You might lose your modesty when the desire to birth matter above all else but you should never have your dignity taken from you. Drs, mws and nurses have no right to touch your body without your consent or do anything to you without explanation.




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    I agree with this. I layed naked on the or table while they prepared me for my cs and inserted a catheter, I had MW change my pads and sponge bath me, help me sit on the toilet have a convo with me while I sat on the toilet or in the shower, check out my grazed nipples, collect my urine etc but not once did I feel like my dignity had been taken away. Maybe you just need to readjust your modesty.

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    That the 1st wee you do after giving birth hurts like hell!! It's the most your bladder has held in at least 6 months and you have no hope at all in squeezing to stop the wee coming because your pelvic floor muscle are shot!

    My advise is drink lots of water post labour to dilute your wee!!

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