Sorry for your loss delirium
Just to make it absolutely clear - I am judging...
Smoking pregnant or not is a choice & a bad one IMO. My 6 yo DD even said to a smoking pregnant woman, "you'll kill your baby if you smoke".
By choosing to smoke in pregnancy, you are choosing to play Russian roulette with your unborn child's life/health. Anyone who has lost a baby already knows how much you blame yourself, why throw smoking into the mix & torture yourself even more?
I will openly and honestly state, smoking whilst pregnant is a bad choice regardless of your circumstances. All babies have a right to be given the best possible chance at a healthy life.
I was a smoker & I quit before I fell pg. Quitting is not easy, but neither is living with the guilt that "your" choice caused your child to be sick.
Some just defended the rights if the mother to make said choice among many others because she has bodily autonomy and a baby does not have rights until they are born, from a legal standpoint, whether or not anyone agrees on a moral level.
Considering that, we may as well be honest about how we feel. And some people put the baby first and think smoking while pregnant is weak, disgusting etc and there's no excuse. This is a valid viewpoint, you disagreeing doesn't make it invalid. Some people like yourself weight the mothers feelings and needs more heavily. That's also a valid viewpoint, despite the fact that myself and others disagree with it.
Last edited by VicPark; 22-07-2012 at 10:18.
Last edited by Alexander Beetle; 22-07-2012 at 10:28.
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