I think on this topic, we are obviously all biased by our own circumstances.
I know of people who would smoke/drink while pregnant (extended, extended family) but in my own circle of friends/acquaintances/family no one would ever smoke/drink while pregnant. They are also all very strict not eating the foods you aren’t meant to and all of that. So my experience might be different from some. If any of my friends lit up a cigarette while pregnant, they would be shot down in flames (some of them are doctors). It just wouldn’t ever happen. Which is why i find it shocking that so many people still seem to smoke, but as said, I’m probably biased and therefore more judgemental.
I really don’t think mothers who smoke while pregnant want to intentionally hurt their babies, I wish they had enough support around them to be able to quit, at least while pregnant. I’m sure they do feel very guilty and that would feel awful.
"All of you who smoke" - who is all of you who smoke? I didn't, I also didn't eat ham, or sushi or anything that you aren't meant to eat. I was very strict.
It isn't about defending those people who cut down to one a day - it is understanding that they aren't evil monster mothers who are trying to kill their children - otherwise they wouldn't have tried to cut down in the first place. It is showing a bit of empathy for the person - not the addiction .
I don't know why I bother - you can say so things in 10 different ways on here and you can be sure someone will take a completely different meaning to what you were trying to say.
No one is saying smoking is good for the baby! Why is that so hard to understand? It's just some of us that believe judging is not the way to go and can see beyond out own circumstances. As for all of those who smoke. I don't think that many of those that have posted do?? I quit the day I found out I was pregnant with number one and have had 4 more smoke free pregnancies. It doesn't mean everyone can do that. Everyone has different circumstances.
It is showing a bit of empathy for the person - not the addiction .
I get this, but i dont just think its just the person, there are two lives involved - mother and baby. Some of us will show more empathy for the mum, some will show more concearn towards the baby. Just the way the cookie crumbles.
Pregnant for the first-time?
Not sure where to start? We can help!
Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!