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    Default 16mth old hitting himself

    Hello everyone!
    ive searched the forum and havnt found anyone having this same problem!
    My 16mth old boy when frustrated hits his head for example will walk to the door frame and hit his head on it or on the wall, this is my 2nd child, and this isn't like your classic throw yourself on the floor kicking and screaming tantrum that I had with my daughter. This is a delibrate action. the frustration is usually caused when he does not get what he wants.
    I have been trying ignoring, since the "no hitting" hasn't worked. But it's just started to worry me lately as he is deliberately hitting himself.
    Maybe Im over analysing- wouldn't be the first time!
    Anyone have any ideas?

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    My daughter was a head-banger. From about 12mths she would crack the poops about something and bang her head on the floor or the wall. She only once hit it on something too hard and from that day on she only banged it hard enough for effect, but not hard enough to hurt! It was usually frustration about something, and I treated as I would any tantrum..mostly ignoring, sometimes comfortng and the usual attempt at distraction. She stopped doing it after a few months and moved onto the normal kicking screamng type tanties!!

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    Well feel like the weight of the world has been lifted off my shoulders after reading your post!
    (been doing my head in the last few days with reading various information on self harm and toddlers- why?- just a glutton for punishment)
    I will continue with the ignore and/or distract method, for now! And who ever thought id say this- and wait for the standard throw yourself on the floor tantrum!
    Thanks!

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    My nephew used to do it, he would head butt the floor until they moved to their new house and he did it on the tiles and really hurt himself, he hasn't done it since. My DS is doing something similar however he will only do it gently (you know the let's try this to see how mummy reacts head butt) I have pretty much ignored the behavior from day dot and it seems to have done the trick, my sister was the same and had to ignore my nephew. Good luck Hun

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    Mine did it at around the same age, but she's stopped now. Hopefully just a phase for yours too.

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    Hi Sparklebug ~ if you search 'Headbanging/Headbangers' in here you will find lots of info. They, apparently, outgrow it. It is overstimulation to block whatever is too frustrating to bear, and sooner or later your little one will find new ways to cope...or start listening to heavy metal... (I was a headbanger as a child, so I'm told!)

    Good luck, I hope it resolves itself soon.

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    Hi OP, my DS has gone through this phase. He started head-banging things around 12 months (I started a thread on here some time ago and found it was pretty common). He did it HARD, and if I ignored him he got worse, so I had to try and pre-empt it and minimise his frustration. Distraction worked sometimes too, or I'd just pick him up and give him a cuddle.

    The first phase lasted a month or so (he replaced head-banging with just putting his head on the ground with his bum up in the air when he was upset!), now at 18 months he's started doing it again - mainly when he doesn't get what he wants or something is taken away from him. Distraction doesn't really work these days so I tend to just ignor it. He doesn't do it as hard as he used to, so more of an attention seeking thing I think.

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    Thanks ladies! Looked up those "headbanging" threads, Feeling much better in knowing my DS is not the only one lol and that it is "normal"
    Will persist with ignoring/distract and keep my fingers crossed it stops soon!

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    My 15 months old does this. It hasn't actually worried me as he does it fairly softly and it seems to make him forget what he was angry about lol. It actually started from me asking him "What happened?" whenever he accidently hit his head on something!


 

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