I'm sick of hearing...

**headoverfeet** · 16-07-2012 11:30

My birth trauma happened because my expectations where too high.

Yeah just like that woman walking home late at night expected to not get raped or that woman sitting at home alone didn't expect her house to be broken into and get assaulted. Just like that soilder that went to war didnt expect to get ptsd.

All I "expected" was a healthy mother and baby..that went well for me..not.

\rant.

**Benji** · 16-07-2012 12:53

Couldn't agree more.

I didn't know what to expect TBH.

I ended up whilst in labour and after:

yelled at
yanked around violently to get me in different positions and hurry me up
pulled by the legs
stabbed with the crochet looking needle even though I was screaming at them not to

not being able to sit comfortably for at least a year afterward

Yeah, I guess I just expected that the system would treat me with dignity and like a human being. Boy, was I wrong.

**Hamilicious** · 16-07-2012 12:54

**Ana Gram** · 16-07-2012 14:29

Yep, me too. I think it is incredibly rude for people to say such things and brush off my trauma as nothing.

**grumpysmurf** · 16-07-2012 14:36

absolutely.

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**headoverfeet** · 16-07-2012 14:41

Thanks everyone, I know you all understand and it's nice to hear

**share a book** · 16-07-2012 14:43

I have not been through birth trauma, but I have been assaulted and cannot understand how people think it isn't the same just because a baby is coming out at the time. I remember reading from one member that it isn't traumatic if you and the baby survived it. The logic just isn't logical.

**beebs** · 16-07-2012 14:46

I know we don't agree on some things Thermolcious. But I agree with you on this. Why would anyone make light of someones birth trauma?

**SassyMummy** · 16-07-2012 15:07

I'm with you.

My expectations, aside from both of us not dying, were for me to birth vaginally, or at least be given a caesarean only if it were absolutely necessary. That's the only thing I asked for - to give birth that way.

I don't think my expectations were high at all. I didn't care about the other details so much, I was quite flexible on them... so I don't know how anyone could think my expectations were too high.