My second child is now 11 months old. He is very different to my first. Where my first had a dummy (his choice from 2 days old lol.....and still has it at 3), my second child is a thumb sucker and never wanted or would take a dummy. My first child when he woke during the night, a cuddle and rock would send him back to sleep, if sick he wanted to be cuddled upright and we would just sleep with him on the rocking chair. yes....some very long nights. My 11 month old, hmmm when he wakes up during the night, I go through the motions, check nappy, smell breath for teething smells etc, medijel or teething relief if needed, burped etc, but he just is out for a play. Tonight my husband is away at work and bub wakes up at 12pm, as usual I went to him to try to settle him, but with no luck. I was so frustrated after 45 minutes of trying to settle him and every time I pick him up, the crying stops, as soon as I put him back in his cot, he starts screaming. I would bring him into my bed and cuddle but he just thinks it's play time. So tonight I tried something different and I let him scream it out. It took an hour and 15 minutes. (I made my peace that if he woke up my 3 year old I would just have to deal with that too) I stood outside his door and just waited. I knew it was just temper, but that was a very long hour and I was so incredibly tempted to go in, because it just breaks my heart. But my soothing just isn't working, it's prolonging it. But right now, he's back asleep, I'm absolutely awake and I just feel awful. Just wondering if anyone has any thoughts on the choice I made to get him to settle himself in this way. P.S. he still has 2 sleeps during the day and has always been a self settler for all of his sleeps. Mostly we have had no problem with that. I have followed the advice in the Tizzy Hall books and he is on the 11 month old routine and doing well in all other aspects. Any thoughts or advice or encouragement would be very much appreciated.