I have a situation I have no idea how to deal with. My 4.5yr step son does not want to go to his dad's house now. The last couple times when he was meant to go, he basically threw a 10 minute tantrum right in front of everyone. Today has been the bio dad's birthday and the same thing happened and bio dad broke down outside afterward.
I try to ask my step son what is the matter but he never tells me exactly what is going on. The mother and I have managed to find out from him that he 'fights' his son (rough play fighting?).
This really sucks because both the mother and the bio dad don't like talking to each other and rather me be some sort of mediator or something!
I'm a strong believer that the biological father has the right to see his own kids unless there is violence or some other issue, of course. At the same time, I realise that a 4.5yr old can't be forced to go see his dad if he is that much against it.
What would another step dad do in my situation? I feel like it needs to be resolved but I don't seem to have the power or experience with kids/other parents to pull this off. I'm out of my league.