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    My brother tends to be one of those guys, if it moves he will sleep with it! He has 4 kids that I know of and I only have anything to do with the first! I haven't spoken to my Brother in over 5yrs as he had a hissy fit and cut us out of his life! So I have 1 niece and nephew who I've never met nor have any inclination to meet! It's not the children's fault no but while he is involved In there life I won't be!!

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    I believe in a genetic bond. I definitely feel an instant affinity with people who are blood relations, or even adopted as they've been raised by people who were raised by the people who raised the people who raised me (breathes) and that gives us similarities almost always.

    Lots of people don't though.

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    I have 2 cousins that I have nothing at all to do with (due to issues in the past) and I certainly don't feel any affection to their children. One of them I've never even met. Luckily they live interstate do I haven't seen them for years as when I go to their state I don't let them know I'm there.

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    I have a lot of second cousins I have never met so feel nothing for. Nothing personal but they are just names on a christmas card.

    Also my step niece. That is mostly because everyone favours her over my DD and she is annoying.

    It's nothing malice, I just don't care if I do or don't have anything to do with them.

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    I feel nothing for my DH sisters kids. Ok I do feel something for the younger one but not the older one. In fact, I actually dislike her. How awful of me. Just a bit of a brat. I do think it has something to do with up bringing

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    I feel nothing for most of my cousins. Really dislike 2 of them that we did see quite a bit but there are 2 that I have met once (both under 10) that yea are cute but I don't feel any sort of bond with them at all

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    I don't feel anything toward my brother's daughter.
    My DH has a bio child born years ago that neither of us feel anything for.

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    I feel nothing for my bil youngest stepchild. He is s sneaky little child he will come to your house and look through every room and hide the kids toys so they can't find them his been caught out a fee times and is just plain mean and a bully to my oldest child.

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    Yes I have relatives children I feel nothing for.

    My sisters child . I was so excited about him being born and then a year later they moved interstate. I then just sort of lost interest, I didn't mean to,it just happened. I rarely see him ....my ds and him adore each other but the two of us have no real relationship. It's sad. I also feel jack for ds cousins on fob side.

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    I definitely believe that family can be defined in two ways. First there's the people who are related by genetics, but then there are the people you love, care for, spend time with, grow up with, enjoy (even if they drive you crazy sometimes). Genetic family aren't automatically the other type of family, and there's nothing wrong with feeling that way - there's usually a good reason for it.

    It sucks that you're in this position though, I do admire you being able to put up with them on occasion for the happiness of the people who do deserve it.


 

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