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    I do sometimes and hate it
    I would feel horrible if someone yelled at me and I am 35. When I have done it, it's because I have lost my temper and patience (usually towards the end of DH's time away at the mine).

    I ALWAYS apologise.

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    Yeah... I do.... or I go off like a kettle so I don't explode.

    I have also run for it. I mean literally RAN away from him before I scream at him. Because I don't want to. I just can't take it any more.

    I prefer to parent without raising my voice. It's not a planned discipline method. And I try to reflect on MY behavior & come up with how I could have handled it better (running and locking myself in the bathroom may be insanely immature but it works well to make me chill the heck out!)

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    No. Yelling is harmful for my child. Her teacher last year was a yeller. It was very damaging, but that teacher was only part time and took a full term off.

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    Yep. I do all the time.

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    ds is 16 months old and id never dream of yelling at him. it would not help in any situation for a child so young. my ds wouldn't understand yelling it would just scare him, i make him look at me and say no firmly.

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    Lately... Constantly!

    Although it's more of a raised firm voice then full strength banshee style yelling

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    I do yell sometimes, but I hate it and am working to change the way I react. I never yelled with DD, but now there's 2 I snap more easily and I can see its affecting the kids.

    It doesn't work, it makes us all feel horrible and I don't want to teach my kids to yell at me when they're angry.

    So I'm trying very hard to stop and use other techniques, like I did with DD.

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    I used to when I was at the end of my teether but realized it was doing more damage then good. I do still occasionally feel myself ready to explode and like pp I run out of the room for a couple of deep breathes. I did lose it the other week after a full on day with ds pushing my buttons morning sickness to boot & then dh coming home and going on about me sitting at home doing nothing all day, to say I lost it is an understatement lots of yelling then lots of crying I apologized once I calmed down & felt soo bad, dh realized it as well & apologized and offered to have ds the next day so I could have time to myself. Maybe you need to say to dh that you need some time out even if it is just to go get your hair done.

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    No, I never yell.

    2 reasons, really. One is that I'm just not a yeller. I would never yell at DH, or anyone. I don't really ever lose my temper. Things make me angry or upset, but I don't lose control. I wouldn't be with someone who yelled at me either - it's just not how our relationship is - so I don't think either of us would yell at DD.

    The other reason is that I don't like yelling. I don't think it's necessary. I have an angry voice, but if anything that tends to be quieter than my normal voice. I personally find it rude to yell at someone, and wouldn't feel right doing it to my kids.

    This is not a passive aggressive dig at anyone who does do that (in case that's how it comes across). I just don't like yelling, and I would feel really taken aback if someone did it to me. I wasn't raised in a house of people yelling, and neither was DH, so maybe that's something to do with it.

    Growing up, if my parents were upset with me or my sister then we had lots of kitchen table summits over cups of tea, where things would be talked through! Sure my mum would snap at me sometimes, but not yell. And dad was always quite rational and cool headed, even when upset.

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    Never, as pp have said I have a stern voice when I don't want him to do something (DH calls it my mum voice)
    Ask me again in 12 months when I have another child!


 

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