My dh thinks i should stop screaming at dd 17mths.
I only do it when she hurts me to let her know i am not happy. I usually say something like "STOP! I DONT LIKE YOU PULLING MY HAIR IT REALLY HURTS" and walk away from her or move her away from me.
I yell at her when she throws food at me/the wall/floor for the 367th time or when slaps me when we are cuddling/having quiet time.
I know she can eat really. I feel she is old enough for boundaries now. I focus on good behaviour and parise her for it. Ignoring the bad behaviour doesnt work and i feel i need to let her know when she is misbehaving or doing something unacceptable.
I do explain to her (in simple form) all the time why her behaviour is inappropriate but after the 657th time, my fuse is really short and i just explode.
She is at such a fun and exploring age. I hate the thought of putting limitations on her inquisitiveness and i realise she is also trying to test me and see what se can get away with at times. I feel i have already put up with enough hair pulling, slaps, food splats and plate throwing. I feel it's now time to set her straight with these type of things.
Somtimes i just cant controll my urge to yell at her because i just get so annoyed/angry. Dh isnt with her 24/7, it does get tiring and i admit, it does get hard to teach a 17mth old basic socally aceptable behaviours!