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    Default Help! DS is losing it

    I had to lock DS (3,5) in his room (rope tied to his door and another in the hallway, he can open it a little and look out). He is tired from a morning in the park, a bad night and missing daddy. DP has been gone since Sunday, he's back early tomorrow morning.
    So we had lunch and DS knows its resttime after lunch. Would not budge, no coaxing, reading, cuddling, 123, nothing. He started hitting me with one of those bubble swords and his fists. I tried cuddling him in his room, singing, being silent. He is beside himself. I hate doing this to him, but he was out of control. He was going to hurt me or DD (4mths)

    Do I sit with him until he calms down? Do I wait for him to pass out behind the door?? I reckon its a phase, but in the meantime how do you deal with these mega tantrums???

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    Putting him in his room with the door locked is the best thing you can do for a bit of space ... My 4yo ds no longer has his handles on his door.
    If he is really wound up punching hitting (growing devils horns) I will do this ... I walk away if I need to but usually stay outside the door ... I will ask him if he is ready to calm down ... When he says yes I let him out and he gets a huge hug - sometimes he will say he can't stop crying so we have a hug. But I do leave him in there till he is ready to calm down - I wouldn't even say I do this once a week it's not very frequent at all. It seems to give him the break he needs to sort out his emotions but I am right tgere if he needs me. When we are having our hug I usually talk about all the fun things we can do ... He had a meltdown today I told him all the different things I love about him.

    As for an afternoon nap/rest I don't know that you can expect that at 3 1/2 ... In our house (when dd goes to bed) we have quiet time ... Which can consist of Lego, craft, cars, sometimes it's just chilling out watching tv) ... But basically something quiet, he can do himself so I can get a rest too.

    Hugs ... Tantrums are draining

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    I would never lock my kids in their rooms. My younger son is also 3.5 and he doesn't have a nap/rest time. I would have just let him continue doing whatever he was doing. Or if he really needed some quiet time, then I would read a book or put on a movie.

    I know it can be really stressful to parent on your own (my DH works in the mines). When my kids (or myself!) are losing it, I take them outside or start a game - anything to distract them and turn things around.

    Hope everyone calms down soon

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    My Ds was horrid as a toddler we use to hVe to tie rope around his bedroom door to stair rail and lock his bedroom window to keep him in his room of a night n morning before we woke up or he would scale baby gate and go down stairs at random times through night and get into everything. Time out was also in his room cause his tantrums were violent

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    Thanks everyone for the replies - always good to know you're not the only one with a tantruming three year old...

    In the end I sat at his door until he calmed down, then explained why he had to calm down, that we dont like hitting and hurting each other, that we love each other ect. He asked for a cuddle, so of course I opened the door and hugged him. Ended up packing the two of them in the car, 2 blocks later DS was fast asleep. Managed to transfer him to his bed, where he is still asleep now.

    I also wouldnt insist on a nap at this age, but his night sleep is dramatic and every few days he NEEDS that nap. We really need to tackle nights, but thats a whole other story...

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    Quote Originally Posted by loop View Post
    Thanks everyone for the replies - always good to know you're not the only one with a tantruming three year old...

    In the end I sat at his door until he calmed down, then explained why he had to calm down, that we dont like hitting and hurting each other, that we love each other ect. He asked for a cuddle, so of course I opened the door and hugged him. Ended up packing the two of them in the car, 2 blocks later DS was fast asleep. Managed to transfer him to his bed, where he is still asleep now.

    I also wouldnt insist on a nap at this age, but his night sleep is dramatic and every few days he NEEDS that nap. We really need to tackle nights, but thats a whole other story...
    Trust me your not alone!!!!


 

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