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    Default I hate you, I wish you were dead!

    These are the words my 6yo said to me tonight. I held it together for about the first 30min and than I lost it. I was soo upset. I'm a single parent and sometimes I just feel I have failed him completely- please tell me others have been there, done that and live to tell a tale outside a physc office.

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    Most kids go through this stage. Don't stress he doesn't mean it. The best thing to do, is to say to him "There is nothing you can do or say that will stop me from loving you." and leave it at that.

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    I said similar to my mum when I was around that age, but I was an angry hurting child and didn't know how to express it any better, but I didn't mean it and remember feeling so bad afterwards

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    Quote Originally Posted by loving6 View Post
    Most kids go through this stage. Don't stress he doesn't mean it. The best thing to do, is to say to him "There is nothing you can do or say that will stop me from loving you." and leave it at that.
    My mums reply was something similar

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    First of all, massive (((((hugs)))))

    My almost 5 year old has told me that she hates me on an almost daily basis for a good year or so. It hurts but I know at the end of the day she doesn't mean it.

    Can you maybe sit down and explain how it makes you feel when they say it? Whenever DD says t now I tell her very calmly that I still love her.

    Sorry I don't have any real advise. I just wanted you to know you aren't alone.

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    My DD (almost 6 now) has cracked out the good old 'I hate you' line and it HURTS
    Loving6 gave the best advice, just counter it with love love love.
    As for feeling like you have failed him.... I think that's a feeling that comes and goes throughout our journeys as mums

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    I agree with PP. I'd say something like 'well I love you and that hurts my feelings'. Nothing wrong with your kids knowing how what they say or do impacts on you.

    My 4 year old told me yesterday that she wanted a different mummy. And I wasn't even doing anything wrong!!!

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    I've heard a lot worse than that...lol ..kids!

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    Im sorry to hear that, he doesn't mean it however xx

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    Thanks for the reassurance everyone.

    I hope I've done the right thing. After probably a 2hr massive tantrum with lots of yelling, ranting, raving and very hurtful things said- I have decided on DS punishment. Grounded for a week. How do I manage this at 6yrs of age? Well, we were supposed to be heading to the powerhouse museum on Monday for a special holiday treat (I took the day off work and didn't book him into vacation care). We were BOTH looking forward to it- no more. For the rest of next weeks well, he's afternoon (afternoon coming home from after school care) will consist of going to his room and dinner at the table but no outside, no DS, no iPod, no tv and no dessert.

    Advice? Opinion?


 

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