DP approached me the other night, he would like another baby. He has many siblings and loves kids. He would have 6 if I agreed, but I just don't think I could cope with that many. I would be okay with 2.
So I told him I would think about it, because he is all for trying now. He seemed a bit bummed that I wanted to work everything out, but thats just me. I have to work everything out. So after a few days of thinking I think that I agree with him and it would be nice to TTC #2 (I have had fertility issues for years, until our surprise DD last year).
But, he wants to now and I have a personal goal I want to achieve first. My personal goal is my weight, I am very very overweight and I had so many problems with preg 1, not weight related but being very overweight added to that stress.
I would like to lose about 40kgs before trying for #2. So I thought about saying this to him;
"Bub, I've decided that I agree with you, it would be nice to have number two but I feel that I would manage better if I lost some weight. So would you be happy to say, let me have 6 months to lose what I can and then we can TTC?"
How does that sound?
If we TTC in 6 months, DD would be 16 months old when we start. I am nervous that it might take a long while but worried if we started TTC now for fear it may take a long time, that we will fall preg straight away and then I know my body would struggle.
Also, for those who went from 1 to 2. I have some questions:
1. Did you find much of a financial jump in expenses going from 1 to 2?
2. How did you cope with having a toddler/child and then having the addition?
3. Do you find if close together (around 2 years gap) that your children play together and get a long well?
I know I couldn't push the time back too much, like I know that DP would be upset if I told him I wanted to wait a year before TTC but I thought 6 months was good. Good to work on weightloss, whether I reach my goal or not. And also to finish my study.
Look forward to everyones wonderful advice