Everyone has a story Smartiecat. There aren't many people that wouldn't feel for your sister and nephews situation and most people would never intentionally put any child at risk. I am very sure that most people just don't send their sick kid to kindy because they 'don't want to miss out on their 5th packet of ciggies for the week' or their weekly maniicure....I am pretty sure for most people, the pressure is way more than that. Don't assume people are heartless or selfish...EVERYONE is dealing with something. Just different somethings.