BUT..... the truth is.... I simply don't understand. If my child is sick, it sucks I have to pay for the day but I don't have to call in sick. I know you say you've been a single mum and still battled on, taking unpaid sick leave (and thank you, it's nice to see a working parent quarantining their child). But again... but... some mums are casual and don't get sick leave. They might be financially be really really struggling and taking an unpaid sick day may mean they don't eat for the week. While it's illegal to fire someone for that, employers are sneaky. I've heard of several cases even on BH, of parents demoted, having their hours cut, given unpalatable duties hoping they would quit... as a result of taking too many sick days, and it's very hard to prove.
But I digress lol
I have always been told that if a child has a clear runny nose, the child is fine to go to daycare. When it turns into a green runny nose, the child has to stay home. It even says so in our daycare center booklet that we get when signing up with them.
A good friend of mine has her son in the same daycare as DS. She works part time at Woolies. She was talking to me about how her son had croup and this disgusting green nose.
She asked me if I knew if our daycare used Aloe Vera tissues for the kids. I told her I had no clue, but I asked her why she wanted to know.
She said she was going to send her DS to daycare the next day because she had to work.
I told her that they wouldn't appreciate her sending DS to daycare with croup and a green runny nose.
She said "Tough luck. I have to work, I don't have a choice".
I then got a little upset and said that I would hold her personally responsible of my DS got croup off her son. He's had it 4 times in his 2,5 years on this earth and each and every time it means neither of us gets any sleep for a few weeks!
She never thought of him spreading a disease like that. She apologized for not thinking it through. Yet who did I see at daycare next day? HER son!
I ignored her messages and phonecalls for 3 weeks and she finally got the idea. Since then she hasn't sent her son to daycare when he's sick. She gets her mother to watch her son while she works.
What beats me though, is why daycare centers do not refuse kids who are obviously sick!
I've seen kids at 9am that are undoubtedly sick. Sweaty and clearly running a temp, balling, croupy cough. So they were obviously sick at drop off and the parents had to know. But I guess many drop and run before the DC realises.
It sucks. But I blame the lack of a village, that we often don't have family to help and that workplaces are often inflexible more than anything.
We send kids home or refuse to take them if they are unwell. A clear runny nose or mild cough is accepted but the sore eyes, green nose, chesty cough, being too miserable to play, they have to go home. It is really hard, unpaid leave once or twice is ok, but not ongoing. One year I got no holidays because I used them up in dribs and drabs when dd had a siezure, burnt her hand, fell of daycare equipment. Each of those meant 4 to 10 days off in a row, then the usual illness that was a day or 2 off, or the daycare closes for a week because of a plumbing problem. I used all sick days, annual leave and some unpaid leave that year so no holidays. It really isn't black and white. Not everyone has family and I have been a single mum for 9 years now with no assistance, financially or otherwise, from her father or his family.
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