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    Quote Originally Posted by Alimia View Post
    That's the thing she wants under no circumstances to have a c-section. I honestly think she thinks I'm weak for needing the c-section after 5hrs of labouring. She makes me feel like I'm less of a mother for delivering ds that way, she always goes on about her friends how deliver naturally with no pain or medical intervention. It's not really about the delivery either it's about generally pregnancy questions. I actually dread our weekend family get together because of her! Grrr!!
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    I still feel like I have advice I can share and yet I've needed two csections and have not labored either times. however during both pregnancies I had every intention to birth vaginally and did a lot of research to empower me with information.

    My sister will give birth in the next fortnight and wants me in with her. I said of course I'll be there but remember i havnt labored so don't know how much help I could be but she says she still trust and wants my experience.

    You should tell your sil I had NO intention of having a cs with my first dd infact I had zero intention of requesting even an epi they both scared the crap out of me.
    But life didn't pan out that way and I needed two elective cs

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alimia View Post
    I've just warned her to keep an open mind about the delivery . ( is it mean that I hope her birth plan doesn't go to plan..... Just joking!
    Hehehe I know that feeling

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    I had my first baby five years before my friends had their first. When I was pregnant with #2, all of a sudden there was a baby boom and five or six of us were pregnant at the same time.

    I assumed my friends would ask me about my birth, as I knew they were asking their other friends who had babies about their experiences. No one asked me a thing, despite the fact that they knew I had enjoyed my birth immensely and was eager to replicate the experience with my second, and despite the fact that knew that statistically their chance of having a caesarean themselves was reasonably high.

    I was quite hurt at the time, and completely mystified... when I was pregnant with my first I was eager to hear any birth story I could, regardless of its method or outcome. But I've grown to realise that many people are in a bit of denial about the whole thing. They don't want to have a caesarean, therefore they don't really want to hear about them. Kind've like shutting their eyes, plugging their ears, and screaming "LALALALALALALALA".

    Meh, it's their loss.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alimia View Post
    I've just warned her to keep an open mind about the delivery . ( is it mean that I hope her birth plan doesn't go to plan..... Just joking!

    I once secretly hoped a friend would need a CS. Does that make me a bad person? I made a joke at her baby shower about a 24hr labour followed by a CS. She didn't think it was funny and was b!yching about me behind my back for weeks.

    Anyway, I was wrong. It was a 20 hr labour followed by a CS.

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    Yeah my SIL is due with #2 in October and I secretly wish her a difficult labour or a c-section :/

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    Pffft, anyone who says "I can't relate to your experience, so it's not worth my time" is very narrow-minded, and is likely to have it bite them in the bum.

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    Don't take it personally, I know when I was pregnant the thought never entered my mind that I would have a c-section. To the point I didn't even go to my 3rd class because it was all about c-sections (first time mum, obviously!)

    Of course, 2 weeks before my due date (2 weeks AFTER my last class ) my dr told me due to a bunch of reasons she would recomend a c-section, god I wish I had of asked questions before hand!!

    So I understand you'd be upset, but, I do understand where your SIL is coming from, if she's anything like me she just didn't think it would even happen.


 

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