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    Default Children showing affection

    Would you ever ask or force your child to kiss/hug a family member goodbye/hello?
    Am I the only person who feels that this is really wrong?

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    No way! I'd say "give so and so a hug/kiss goodbye" once, but leave it if they didn't want to!

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    I hate, hate, hate children being told to give others affection. My DD is only a baby but I'd much rather people just ask their children to say goodbye to me, not kiss or hug me.

    I'm a victim of childhood sexual assault so I'm sure I'm more sensitive than the average person.

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    I totally agree ... I have at times forced my children to SAY hello or goodbye to people but would never FORCE them to kiss or hug anyone. I have said to them would you like to kiss/Hug xxx goodbye and leave it up to them but it generally depends on who it is - for people who aren't close family we settle for high five goodbyes.

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    I think it's wrong too, little kids are people too, they should be able to decide who they hug and kiss.

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    I say to ds give nan / pop etc a hug / kiss but if he doesnt want to its entirely his choice, if i didn't want to kiss someone and was forced to i'd be ****ed off

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    I always make my children say hello and goodbye to people because thats just good manners, but I don't force them to hug or kiss goodbye... But my kiddies love showing affection and freak out my friends sometimes when they want to hug and kiss them goodbye

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    My cousins force their kids to kiss and hug DH and I. I can see that they really don't want to but if they don't, they'll get told off. It makes me feel sooo awkward and I try to say "oh that's okay if they don't want to give us a hug/kiss. Maybe next time they'll feel more comfortable."
    It really ticks me off and makes me feel so uncomfortable.
    I just feel that kids have their boundaries as well. Just because they're kids it doesn't mean they have to trust who we tell them to trust and feel comfortable right away.
    How they greet somebody should be their decision. As long as they say hello/goodbye.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MamaNurture View Post
    I'm a victim of childhood sexual assault so I'm sure I'm more sensitive than the average person.
    Yep, this is me too. He was a very close family friend and practically lived with us. Everybody trusted him and so did I. I think this is why I'm also sensitive about it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SugarSkull View Post
    My cousins force their kids to kiss and hug DH and I. I can see that they really don't want to but if they don't, they'll get told off. It makes me feel sooo awkward and I try to say "oh that's okay if they don't want to give us a hug/kiss. Maybe next time they'll feel more comfortable."
    It really ticks me off and makes me feel so uncomfortable.
    I just feel that kids have their boundaries as well. Just because they're kids it doesn't mean they have to trust who we tell them to trust and feel comfortable right away.
    How they greet somebody should be their decision. As long as they say hello/goodbye.
    If you know your cousins will do this to your kids could you try jumping in before and going high 5 goodbye???

    I think people forget sometimes adults don't like to be kissed and hugged too and especially since little kids tend to kiss on the lips too!!!


 

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