My DS is nearly 3 and for the last 2 years (since he was 1) he has been almost unable to have a single playdate with any other child without constantly shoving, tackling, hitting, kicking, throwing things, hitting with objects etc. I have seen a paed who specialises in child behaviour who didn't help at all, and now have an appointment in two weeks with a psychologist through the community health service. He doesn't have a condition like ASD or ADHD or ODD, its just 'him'. But he can't continue being this version of 'him'. He is a hot tempered kid with no self control, is prone to huge aggressive tantrums, hits us when he is angry or just being naughty, tells us to "go away" and "shut up" (learnt that one from me yelling at the neighbours dogs - whoops!).
It reaches a head every so often and I think THIS NEEDS TO STOP! but then, like today, I get an appointment or make headway and think second guess myself and wonder if I'm being a bit obsessed or dramatic about it. I know deep down I'm not, his daycare educator has seen it (although nowhere near as bad at daycare as playdates, which we can't figure out) and says its like Jekyl and Hyde (sp?) when he does it. He was nearly expelled from daycare last year because of it. And I have friends who avoid playdates with me because of his behaviour towards their kids.
Anyone else been in the same boat? What did you do? I'm thinking of videoing the behaviour and showing the shrink so she can see what I mean because its hard to explain what he is like when he is in a manic kind of state like that. Hopefully she can give me a plan of attack.